(Closed) Wedding planning stress – I “win”

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I concur; you winFrown

If I were you I would be crying. I do hope that everything works itself out for you. Have you been able to contact the venue to see if they can give you an clue as to what it going on and if your wedding will still be able to take place there?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You win.

I hate to say this…but are they saying they are not for sale because they don’t want to refund your $$? Or maybe, someone else holds the title for it and the people you work with have no clue?

Worst case scenario: it is for sale, contact your vendors and work with them to move it to somewhere else. At this point, they’ve invested time and money into it too and should be able to work with you.

**sending positive thoughts your way**

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d cancel your deposit with that venue and try to scrape something else together quick. What about just a local restaurant? I’m sure you could rent out a room if worse comes to worse. It sucks that it’s happening, but right now you need to focus on finding another place for your wedding. GL.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@redherring: Another suggestion would be a community center. Yeah, it’s not ideal, but it’s a venue and most of them allow you to use whatever vendors you want.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@redherring: They won’t refund it at all? That’s slightly crooked, but I guess it is close to your date. It’s shitty that they’d do this. =/ I’m sorry.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Awww. Big hugs! I hear your frustration and honestly, that’s something you should never have to go through (although shouldn’t doesn’t fix the bind you find yourself in). I’d probably look for a plan B venue, even though you’re only a little over a week from your date, and tell them in no uncertain terms that you want your money back. NOW. If they don’t and it does go up for sheriff’s sale and you don’t get what you paid for, you could always go to the court before the sale and talk to them. They might be able to put some sort of lien on some of the proceeds to try and recoup some of your $. I don’t know, I’m not a lawyer or anything, just a thought. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this, it will get better. I’m glad your fiance is trying to help and is at least going to talk to the owner.

Best of Luck,

~ Bella

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

With a week to go, I would call prospective reception places nearby, tell them your sob story and see what they can do … as a backup plan of course.

Let’s say there’s an available reception hall nearby that rents for $2500.  If it’s a matter of no $ or $1000, maybe they will agree to rent it to you for $1000 if your other deal falls through.  It’s not like anyone else if going to rent it out 1 week before.  It’s worth a try, and hopefully they will try to help you out!

I would put all of your vendors on notice that the location MIGHT change, and again, give them your sob story so they feel sorry for you and you don’t incur change fees or transportation fees or anything else they could potentially tack on.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So, this might sound a bit over the top dramatic, but this happened to a venue in Mass. (or maybe it was NH?)…Anyway, a venue had gone out of business and several weddings had been planned for there…The families called the local newspapers and genorsity just poured in. Other venues didn’t even know that place was going out of business and arranged for the weddings to be moved to their places, vendors reached out and helped….

 

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You sooooo win!! I can’t even imagine being in your shoes! Like the previous poster, if it’s already in the paper, I would be taking my story there too! You never know what could happen with the generosity of locals!

I wish you all the luck!

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