(Closed) Wedding Planning Sucks!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

What exactly about it sucks? There are absolultey stressful moments trying to coordinate preferences and sticking to a budget, but I have honestly loved every minute of planning. 

Post # 3
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358 posts
Helper bee

When’s the wedding? I was pretty excited to wedding plan when I first got engaged but the excitement burnt out quickly. I got to the point that my brain hurt from thinking about wedding thing. 

My wedding is a little less than a year away, so I have plenty of time but I’ve learned that I enjoy the planning more when I take little breaks in between each project. I deliberately now will give myself 1-3weeks between each project and just focus on other things during those weeks. Then when I start on the next planning project I don’t feel so worn down! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It is fun at times, but frustrating at others. Picking a venue was the most frustrating part! Everything after that has been great!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

I really enjoyed the initial stages of wedding planning i.e choosing venue, dress, my bridesmaids. I HATED the last month or so. Mainly due to guests being difficult because I didn’t invite their kids and just how busy I was with the details. In my case DH wasn’t interested at all in the planning so that didn’t help. I hate to say it but if you aren’t enjoying it now then I don’t think it will get better. Think about what you really want because planning the type of wedding you don’t want will be miserable.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

I totally understand but it got better for me. Prior to getting engaged, I spent many hours over the internet planning my fictional wedding. I was convinced that I could invite like 200 people with food and an open bar for like $5,000. Oh silly me.

I first had to accept that planning a wedding can suck. My fiance and I get wedding fatigue where it becomes really stressful to even chat about the wedding. We designated a safe word which signals that we are temporarily changing the subject. I also found this website called “Plan the Day” that helps me organized. I had to find a system that worked for me. I had get off pinterest. I just sometimes need to complain. Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Why don’t you get your partner to organise the wedding instead? Might take some pressure off you. I am sewing our wedding outfits but besides that my partner is organising our whole wedding and one year honeymoon. I just show up 😜 My partner is excellent at organising parties and he’s a brilliant party host as well. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I started to feel it sucks after about 3 weeks. We’ve still got a year to go before the big shindig and the October one is just about organised (still need to order food and decide how much to stick behind the bar, and invite people). 

There is just so much pressure out there to have the perfect wedding, with the perfect pinterest worthy things, that must be DIYed.. I’m normally pretty immune to social pressure but it has started to niggle at me. Luckily my partner is enthusiastic about it all and I can hand him tasks. Sadly he can be a little too enthusiastic at times and starts asking our venue things before we’ve even talked about it between us, which can be a little irritating. But as he’s the one who is dealing with them (language barrier) then it’s up to him to own that shit. 0

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - City, State

Google wedding planning sucks, it’s quite amusing 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I found the worst part was finding out venue. I honestly thought I would never find one that we both liked… But we did… After 6 weeks of trawling the internet. It was painful, but once that was booked, planning was much easier.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Eh I think you need to step back and figure out what about wedding planning sucks for you. If it sucks now, it will reflect the day of. Don’t stress over tiny details, don’t compress your time if you don’t need to and have a longer engagement, ask for help from your FH, don’t be “Wedding mode” 24/7, have hobbies outside of wedding planning as well.

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