(Closed) Wedding Planning With Terminally Ill Parent

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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2382 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

That is really a shame, and you have my sympathies.  The only experience I have is that I attended a wedding, that was sped up a lot, because the bride’s mother was dying of cancer, and the bride wanted her mother to see her get married.

All the guest knew this, and it cast a pall upon the fancy country club reception. The MOB couldn’t attend the reception, and was wheeled into the church in a wheelchair for the ceremony. It was sad throughout the day, and the Maid/Matron of Honor cried while giving the speech.

I feel it would have been better to forego the big party in the circumstance, and have an intimate ceremony at home or at the church. But the bride didn’t want to forego the big event.

The MOB died while the couple was on their honeymoon, and they had to come back early. The marriage only lasted about 2 years. The couple, in retrospect, probably would have broken up in a year or so if not for this accelerated marriage.

Post # 3
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5152 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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AllieRach:  Why not get legally married BEFORE the actual wedding? You could have a small, intimate ceremony with just your parents and his parents (and siblings, if you have any). Then, at your later date – you can have your big wedding. If your father makes it to both, that’s fabulous – if not, you will have spent that time w/him at the private ceremony where you legally got married. 

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