Post # 1
Hey fellow bees! I have been gone for a minute, but back now. Was just in my good friend’s wedding and I must admit it was nice to take a break from wedding planning!! Even though I didn’t get to save too much money lol…I am back on it now for mines.
We take engagement photos on Saturday then afterwards will send save the dates (even though I am worried August might be too late) …then will put deposit down on dress to get it ordered and me sized!
So much lol…I am just ready to walk down the aisle to my hubby. The stuff that irritates me is mom’s input, my fiance actually cares about certain items which is good and bad lol…and the fam wars. I think my bridal party is too big and yeah…just ready for it to be over.
Makes me feel like creating a meme saying: “Wedding planning…it will be fun they said.” but showing how it’s not lol..
anyone else experiencing the annoying side of it?
Post # 3
Me! It’s the budget that’s the issue. I would be done by now if I had more money.
Post # 4
@futuremrsmendez: Oh my dear, it comes with the territory; the sweet and the sour. We’re almost done, because our date is coming up, but yeah, there are stressful aspects for sure! I’m just looking forward to marry my best friend and running off to our honeymoon
Post # 5
I totally agree with you… it makes me think back to when we got engaged, and my fiance wanted to do a small wedding in Hawaii. I told him that I wanted the big wedding, family, bridesmaids… blah blah blah… ummmm why did I want this?!?!?! lol I started out with just my 3 sisters as bridesmaids, which worked out good. Then we felt like it would be fun to include his sister and then my best friend (who lives out of state and we weren’t sure if she was going to make it or not). So I love your quote “wedding planning… it will be fun… they said.” lol that describes it perfectly. I think the thing that gets me the most is how before you’re engaged your thinking about little details that will be “super cute” right? Then in the middle of planning you realize why the hell do these little details really matter?? In the end, no one will notice them and they just cost extra money! But for those around you who AREN’T engaged and just kinda living vicariously through you (*cough*sisters and moms*cough*) these little details seem completely necessary. AHHHHH! lol good news is I’m about 5 and a half months out. Everything is pretty much done, dresses will all be here in about a month, got the venue, menu, flowers ordered, etc. I was just excited for all those things to be out of the way! Hang in there… we’ll be done soon 🙂
Post # 6
I am 77 days away and …. OMG just can’t wait.
Our invitations are being shipped as we speak, so we have to get those out and I am having nightmares about the cost of postage.
Then pretty much everything else is details – dress alterations, decorations, BM gifts, etc.
But I am just SO ready to walk down the aisle, see all my fam and friends, have an awesome party …. and RELAX.
I seriously can’t remember the last time I did NOTHING for one day or one weekend.
And this entire summer is going to blow by without me doing anything fun.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m enjoying planning for the most part, but now that I’m down to the wire …. I just want it to be here.
I long for the days of having nothing to do.
Post # 7
Yeah, it’s just so much constant stress. I also know that I have so many more important things to worry about. I need to get my journal article out this week, I need to take my GRE, FI needs help with his med school applications, I have a full-time job…and I’m stuck spinning my wheels trying to track down some stupid white dress for a giant princess wedding that I wasn’t fully on board with in the first place.
It’s a personality thing…I can get a little obsessive and I have some perfectionist tendencies, so I’m not really surprised that it has become life-consuming.
Post # 8
@mepayne: Ugh yes let’s not even get to the budget part!! We have our venue pretty muchpaid off but it’s all the other stuff ..flowers..photos..aagh! lol
Post # 9
@ashwirtz: You hit it right on when you said “Then in the middle of planning you realize why the hell do these little details really matter??” like favors and all the frills?? Ugh right I don’t care about them as much as my mom does at all! lol Cause to me it doesn’t either and you right it just cost extra!!
Why I wanted a bigger even I have no idea either..sometimes I feel we should have just stuck with destination lol.
Post # 10
The little frilly details will pay off. Some guest will notice them. Your photos will show them and you’ll feel a sense of pride for all the hardwork. Some guests won’t notice the small details of the frilly thing but they will notice that they are looking at something pretty even if they don’t know what they are looking at. All these things contribute to the overall look of the wedding, trust me!
Post # 11
Regarding the number of the bridal party, I think you are still fine. We had 12 pairs of BMs & GM, 2 pairs of MOH & BM, 4 pairs of JBMs & JGM, 7 FGs, ring, coin & bible bearers. not to mention, 3 pairs of principal witnesses & another 3 pairs of secondary witnesses..
I thought I was going to pass out with the wedding planning, but DH and myself concentrated on what we wanted and let go of what we can compromise and it paid of.
Post # 12
@rlyn2188: Wow! That’s a huge bridal party! Is it a cultural tradition or you just didnt want to leave anyone out? How many guests did you have? I don’t think I was even able to handle 3 BMs haha
Post # 13
Soooo ready to be done! I can’t wait to walk down the isle (4 weeks!) But there are still a few things to get ready and my parents dog just had a crazy accident and she is on her way…over the rainbow…so I can’t bring myself to ask for financial help from them so we will just have to cut back on some things. No biggie, puppy is more important…I’m just ready to walk down that isle and then get our butts on that CRUISE!!
Post # 14
@iHappyWife: Hi there, I was initially planning on a small intimate wedding and one day I was making a list of my side of the guestlist and bridal party and couldn’t decide properly as I didn’t want to leave anyone out.. Until DH came home that day and told me that he has been thinking of a way how to tell me he wanted his 11 very close friends to be groomsmen and best men as they had this agreement/promise (probably when they were all drunk one time) to be in each other’s wedding regardless of where and when it will be! And DH’s idea for our church wedding was ‘bigger the better!’ Lo and behold we scratched the idea of a small wedding! My problem was indeed solved when he told me that. And in fairness to his friends, when DH told them we’re getting married and reminded them about their ‘agreement’, all of them accepted! And booked their holidays and flights almost immediately. And nearly all of them wanted to be the best man! Lol!
We had 300 something guests, bridal party included. We had relatives and friends from other countries too, to say it was an OTT wedding is an understatement! But we wouldn’t change it despite of the ridiculous amount of stress especially when doing the seat plan. Have a look on our photos on my thread.