Post # 17
oh noo.. I’m sorry to hear that! This could sound kind of bad, but does Fiance have insurance? Could you do the courthouse quickie to help out with that and still have your dream wedding as the ‘official’ one? Also, don’t worry about furnishing the house right away.. it’ll definitly take time. We have nothing but FI’s hand me downs but it works for now. We’ve been in the house 8 months now, and just sort of got enough for the living room (tv stand, coffee table, rug, curtains and sofa/loveseat). We havent even gotten end tables yet.
Post # 18
Oh babe, I’m so so sorry for you and your Fiance. I know that you’ve been putting so much effort into plainning this and it sucks that you’ll have to push it back. At lease you can use all that extra energy on making your new house and home. And hopefully you’ll feel better soon too!
Just know that all the Bees are here to shower you with support whenever you need it!
Post # 19
@pinkshoes: Because my dental problem relates to an accident 15 years ago, it is considered pre-existing I guess. So getting insurance now won’t help. My dentist is doing it all as slowly and cheaply as possible but it’s gonna suck up our whole wedding fund.
Post # 20
I waited so long to get this last tooth fixed due to lack of insurance that I ended up having the tooth pulled and now look like hillbilly with a very visible hole in my mouth.
I just want to marry him.
Post # 21
- Wedding: January 2011 - Gardens of the World
Aww hun 🙁 So sorry about this. Praying that everything works out xox
Post # 22
I am so sorry!!
Can you enter any contests? Feel free to PM me about them, I’ll vote for you. 🙂
And a 3-5k wedding is totally possible. My mom through one in that range for her sister in San Francisco–most expensive city ever. So… you can do it!
Post # 23
Sorry… that sucks. I mean, it’s the responsible thing to do but that doesn’t mean you can’t be disappointed.
I had a small courthouse wedding myself. Like you, I just wanted to get married. You should get married at the courthouse, have a really lovely weekend away tgether and then start planning the vow renewal/Carnival bash!
Post # 24
Oh no!!! I hope your dental pain + problems get fixed soon! If you want to get married, why don’t you have a courthouse wedding, and then maybe have the big carnival extravaganza for a 5 year anniversary party? I hope it all works out for you guys.
Post # 25
What’s important is that you’re together. An extra year or two won’t change the way you feel about each other will it? No, so just wait and see. HUGS!
Post # 26
Can i be honest? i think spending $12,000 on a wedding when you don’t have insurance and have just bought a house is not smart. You can have a gorgous wedding without spending that kind of money. And, as a homeowner now, you will surely end up with unexpected expenses at some point AND you need extra cash in the bank for emergencies, or heaven forbid if one of you is out of work (look at the way the home market is right now, full of short sales and forclosures from people who were not prepared). In fact, the housing market is a mess partially because people thought it was wise to spend more money than they could afford, and it sounds to me like you are looking to do that with the wedding.
I think that you need to start being a little more adult and a little more practical. Having a big splashy flashy wedding is nice, if you have lots of money. But if you don’t, you need to do the grown up thing and scale back.
Post # 27
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore
Awwww, I’m so sorry! I’ll be thinking good thoughts for you.
Post # 28
@menobride: that was kind of harsh. she is posting here because she IS either scaling back or postponing indefinitely. she is allowed to be sad about this seeing as they just realized that’s what they have to do.
big hugs! i am soooo sorry about this. i understand not wanting to do the courthouse thing because when you have your wedding you want it to be when you actually get married. so i guess you have to figure it out if you want to wait a few more years or do it the most inexpensive way possible. i think a lake house sounds incredible and if you are not paying for that venue, can’t you do it really cheap? i went to a pot luck wedding once and it was one of the most fun weddings i had been to just because everyone knew how to party! also you could find ways to incorporate a carnival theme anywhere you go. one thing i will offer is that it might just be worth waiting to have that dream wedding. i have gone thru so many ups and down myself this year because of wedding costs. at one point i totally regretted planning and still i think if i could go back in time, i would wait another year or two so as not to be so financially strained. the main reason i could not is because our friends and family had already bought their non-refundable tickets to Jamaica. On one of my “emotional” posts about this, i had a bride tell me how she had been in the same situation, they waited FIVE years and then it was ALL totally worth it because she got to have her dream. so you just gotta figure out when and how to do this and whatever you decide, you will marry the man of your dreams AND have an awesome wedding. what’s awesome about it is that you will be getting married! and pink can be incorporated into anything at a very low cost, so it will be pretty no matter what!
Post # 29
@menobride: I agree with purpleunicorn – It seemed like it was conveyed in the OP that she is being adult and scaling back. I felt that was a little bit of a harsh reply when she’s upset about everything..if she didn’t know she had to scale back, she wouldn’t have bothered posting this here for support.
I’m so sorry to hear this 🙁 and I hope you’re close to your 72 hours being up so you can enjoy a nice glass of wine! feel free to vent any time. not that this helps, but now you have extra time to plan, and your big day will be perfect and worth the wait. (I know that just sounded like total BS, and for that I’m sorry..I feel for ya!!)
Post # 30
I’m sorry 🙁 Good luck with your surgeries, I hope they go well and I hope you have so much fun setting up your new house!
Post # 31
@menobride: It sounds like the OP is ALREADY doing the things you’re saying she should do. She’s perfectly aware of what she needs to be doing and is looking for a little support because she’s feeling down.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I don’t really have anything else to say that the others haven’t already, but things will work out the way they’re supposed to. I think that having a big fun anniversary party in a couple of years or a vow renewal would be awesome and give y’all time to get all this taken care of and some more money saved up.