(Closed) Wedding postponed indefinitely

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@SoontobeMrsA:

Oh no! I’m so sad to hear this setback for you πŸ™ Sending lots of love and hugs…I hope in a few days you’ll feel better and be in a better place to figure things out. Health and family are most important, but it doesn’t lessen the disappointment. *hugs*

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@SoontobeMrsA: Yes you can. My aunt and uncle lived in Thailand for 8 years. It is a wonderful western friendly country. They love tourists and SUCH amazing food!

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SoontobeMrsA: I’m sorry to hear this news! I love reading your posts and responses so hopefully you won’t take too long of a break? I understand about dental work, I am about to add up everything I paid last year in the hopes of claiming it on my taxes! Soft teeth+addiction to Diet Coke=bad results! Anyway, I hope you can still be excited about having bought a new home! Maybe you could post some pictures? I like the idea of doing something small now and then a big bash later.

Post # 46
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1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I echo everyone else and also add my positive thoughts to you and yours.  It sucks when you’ve planned and budgeted and then something comes a long and kicks you off your feet.  It’s doubly awful that you’re in pain right now.  πŸ™

Take some time to mourn what you’ve looked forward to and put your heart and soul into.  It’s completely understandable.  Regroup, get healthy, and you’ll be stronger and feel more up to dealing with this and come up with a new and fantastical plan.  

 

 

Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh noes!  I’m so sorry to hear.  πŸ™  I can only imagine how you’re feeling, but you know that we’re all here for you.  We can help you plan something just as fabulous if you’d like.  Stay strong!

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Have you ever heard of Care Credit? Its a medical credit card that if you spend over $300 you have 1 year to pay it off, interest free, if you spend less than $300 you have 6 months instead & it starts over every time you do this. I had many $ks worth of dental issues & put it all on the card & paid the minimum payments for a year & a week before the interest free part ran out I paid it all off. I saved at least $1k just in interest. I don’t have insurance either :(. It also works on pets, I used it for my “ringworm saga kittens” many vet visits from Sept & Oct & am just now paying it off to avoid the interest.

You may want to look into buying 1 year of dental coverage that starts immediately (I can hopefully find out the name of the company for you, I have it saved somewhere). I did this for 1 year & got all my teeth issues fixed. I think it cost like $700 but it covered $1600 worth of work. PLUS I got a discount on all my dental work because I had it (lets say it costs like $100 normally, I was charged $70 for the thing with my discount).

If it was from a car accident, won’t the auto insurance cover it?

I’m sorry about your wedding postmonement :(. At least you’re getting an amazing house! Another idea… sometimes mini carnivals come into town. I’ve seen them in mall parking lots & they have carnival games & food. Could you possibly rent the carnival for a few hours for your reception? Or perhaps just go to the carnival with your weddings guests? Not sure exactly what time of year they come.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry all of this is happening! It always seems like if one thing goes wrong there is something else right behind it.. Like a PP said, Care Credit should be available for you to use. I had to use that about 7 years ago, the only thing is though if you can’t get it paid off by the time you start getting charged interest its almost impossible to pay off. I was paying my minimum each month & once the interest would get added my bill was going up not down! Luckily my boss paid it off through work for me after about 6 months of doing this & just deducted it out of my paycheck.. Dental work is so expensive even after insurance and especially if any of it is considered cosmetic. I hope you still get to have your dream wedding, maybe you can figure out some way to still have it just half the cost. Good luck!

Post # 50
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Helper bee

I’m sorry that you’re going through this right now.  I hope your surgery goes smoothly and that you and your Fiance figure out something that works for you.  Congratulations on the new house, and I hope it’s a wonderful, happy home for you.

Post # 51
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

(((((HUGS)))))  I know how disappointing it can be, I postponed my wedding for a year after the death of the FHs ex.    I was in your spot almost exactly a year ago, if you want to talk about what we did, and how we handled it, you are more than welcome to PM me at anytime.

The next few weeks are going to be very emotionally charged.  The one peice of advice from one postponed bride to another that I will give you, is to remember that your emotions are just that, emotions.  Those crazy emotions of disappointment and being unsure about the wedding in the future, can easily filter into our relationships with the FHs.  Some how, some way we have to push those emotions aside and remember that we all are doing our best and that through working together all things will work out for the best in the end. 

You guy sounds like a great guy who sounds more disappointed about disappointing you, wow, that is really a hard thing to find in a guy.  Congrats, you found one of the truely great ones. 

Post # 52
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4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So sorry, lady. πŸ™

Post # 53
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1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

awe I’m sorry!  I loved your carnival stuff!!  It will work out one way or the other!  God can provide.   praying for you!

Post # 54
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry for you!! But you know what? You have your man and your family and that’s what matters most…. I always feel so lucky everyday that when I wake up and open my eyes I know that my Fiance is there and he loves me just as much (he would argue more!) as I love him, someday we’ll get married (and so will you) but we do still have to live in the present and take care of ourselves first. All of us bees will be here for you in 2013 or later to give you some more carnival ideas πŸ™‚

My dad and his wife go to Guatemala for their dental work, and they suggested I go there too since it’s so much more affordable and clean. I couldn’t imagine my dad would suggest something like that if it’s not totally worth it, so maybe you could look into Thailand like daydreamwanderer suggested too?

And congrats on buying the house! That’s fantastic! I’m so jealous!! 

Post # 55
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7772 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Im so sorry, hun. πŸ™ Things have a way of working themselves out though, you’ll see.

I pulled off some ridiculous budgetary magic for our wedding, hit me up if you want some tips.

Post # 56
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

I am so sorry! 

I just told my guy that if I had long beautiful hair I would chop it all off, sell it, and the $$$$ to you like Jo in Little Women.

I have such a fixer type personality and these sort of things in life drive me crazy!

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