(Closed) Wedding postponed indefinitely

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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1515 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh noes!  I’m so sorry to hear.  ๐Ÿ™  I can only imagine how you’re feeling, but you know that we’re all here for you.  We can help you plan something just as fabulous if you’d like.  Stay strong!

Post # 48
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1837 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Have you ever heard of Care Credit? Its a medical credit card that if you spend over $300 you have 1 year to pay it off, interest free, if you spend less than $300 you have 6 months instead & it starts over every time you do this. I had many $ks worth of dental issues & put it all on the card & paid the minimum payments for a year & a week before the interest free part ran out I paid it all off. I saved at least $1k just in interest. I don’t have insurance either :(. It also works on pets, I used it for my “ringworm saga kittens” many vet visits from Sept & Oct & am just now paying it off to avoid the interest.

You may want to look into buying 1 year of dental coverage that starts immediately (I can hopefully find out the name of the company for you, I have it saved somewhere). I did this for 1 year & got all my teeth issues fixed. I think it cost like $700 but it covered $1600 worth of work. PLUS I got a discount on all my dental work because I had it (lets say it costs like $100 normally, I was charged $70 for the thing with my discount).

If it was from a car accident, won’t the auto insurance cover it?

I’m sorry about your wedding postmonement :(. At least you’re getting an amazing house! Another idea… sometimes mini carnivals come into town. I’ve seen them in mall parking lots & they have carnival games & food. Could you possibly rent the carnival for a few hours for your reception? Or perhaps just go to the carnival with your weddings guests? Not sure exactly what time of year they come.

Post # 49
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry all of this is happening! It always seems like if one thing goes wrong there is something else right behind it.. Like a PP said, Care Credit should be available for you to use. I had to use that about 7 years ago, the only thing is though if you can’t get it paid off by the time you start getting charged interest its almost impossible to pay off. I was paying my minimum each month & once the interest would get added my bill was going up not down! Luckily my boss paid it off through work for me after about 6 months of doing this & just deducted it out of my paycheck.. Dental work is so expensive even after insurance and especially if any of it is considered cosmetic. I hope you still get to have your dream wedding, maybe you can figure out some way to still have it just half the cost. Good luck!

Post # 50
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104 posts
Blushing bee

I’m sorry that you’re going through this right now.  I hope your surgery goes smoothly and that you and your Fiance figure out something that works for you.  Congratulations on the new house, and I hope it’s a wonderful, happy home for you.

Post # 51
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7086 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

(((((HUGS)))))  I know how disappointing it can be, I postponed my wedding for a year after the death of the FHs ex.    I was in your spot almost exactly a year ago, if you want to talk about what we did, and how we handled it, you are more than welcome to PM me at anytime.

The next few weeks are going to be very emotionally charged.  The one peice of advice from one postponed bride to another that I will give you, is to remember that your emotions are just that, emotions.  Those crazy emotions of disappointment and being unsure about the wedding in the future, can easily filter into our relationships with the FHs.  Some how, some way we have to push those emotions aside and remember that we all are doing our best and that through working together all things will work out for the best in the end. 

You guy sounds like a great guy who sounds more disappointed about disappointing you, wow, that is really a hard thing to find in a guy.  Congrats, you found one of the truely great ones. 

Post # 52
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2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So sorry, lady. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 53
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547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

awe I’m sorry!  I loved your carnival stuff!!  It will work out one way or the other!  God can provide.   praying for you!

Post # 54
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264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry for you!! But you know what? You have your man and your family and that’s what matters most…. I always feel so lucky everyday that when I wake up and open my eyes I know that my Fiance is there and he loves me just as much (he would argue more!) as I love him, someday we’ll get married (and so will you) but we do still have to live in the present and take care of ourselves first. All of us bees will be here for you in 2013 or later to give you some more carnival ideas ๐Ÿ™‚

My dad and his wife go to Guatemala for their dental work, and they suggested I go there too since it’s so much more affordable and clean. I couldn’t imagine my dad would suggest something like that if it’s not totally worth it, so maybe you could look into Thailand like daydreamwanderer suggested too?

And congrats on buying the house! That’s fantastic! I’m so jealous!! 

Post # 55
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4437 posts
Honey bee

Im so sorry, hun. ๐Ÿ™ Things have a way of working themselves out though, you’ll see.

I pulled off some ridiculous budgetary magic for our wedding, hit me up if you want some tips.

Post # 56
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831 posts
Busy bee

I am so sorry! 

I just told my guy that if I had long beautiful hair I would chop it all off, sell it, and the $$$$ to you like Jo in Little Women.

I have such a fixer type personality and these sort of things in life drive me crazy!

Post # 57
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1338 posts
Bumble bee

 Honestly, I second  @ddw: on the Thailand idea. It’s far more common than you think.

Post # 59
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111 posts
Blushing bee

Hi. I’m not a big poster but I’ve been following and I also love your ideas. I’m sure everything will work out. 

Good luck on your surgery. 

Post # 60
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2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Awww, I’m so sorry to hear about all of this. I was really looking forward to your wedding.

Also, a 3-5K wedding can be doable. Like others have said just scale it back a little.

On a brighter note, you are able to deduct medical expenses on your tax return if you spend more than 7.5% of your income on medical expenses.  I’m not sure how much you guys or you make (if you are not married by the time you file next year) but you might be able to get some of that back at tax time. I’m not a tax expert but I know I tried writing off some medical expenses but couldn’t because we didn’t pass the 7.5% mark. I hope you will be able to.

Hugs!!

Post # 61
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151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@SoontobeMrsA: I am so sorry to hear the crushing news. My Mom just has some extensive and expensive work done on her teeth. She got a great deal at a local dental school. Maybe you could look into something like that. I hope things start to look up for you and this is just a temporary bump in the road. You still have over a year, so don’t give up yet! Where there is a will, there is a way!

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