Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I spent the better day of yesterday in bed crying about this whole ordeal. I never thought it would happen to me, yet here I am calling our vendors, albeit slowly, telling them about our scenario and the reason for the postponement. Basically, it is a combination of buying and selling short-sale homes, looking out for our personal credit, and an Afghanistan deployment. The rational part of my brain says postponing the wedding is the best decision for us long-term, but my heart sinks everytime I think about it.
I tell myself, I waited 4 years. What’s another year? Then I place blame on my fiance’ for wanting a wedding in the first place. I was more than okay with going to Vegas or the courthouse but he wanted a wedding. So I got into it, began planning, finished planning, and was ready to walk down the aisle. And now with only 4 months left, I can’t have any of it. 🙁
Anyway, I started the round of phone calls with my venue. I am due to hear back from them this afternoon about the plight of my full payment. Luckily, the venue was recently featured on StyleMePretty so I am sure there is a waiting list of brides out there looking to use the venue. I hope someone will be as eager as I was to get married at the place. Up next is my photographer…
Post # 4
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Newbee
I’m sorry to hear that as well. Is there an option to get married now without the formal ceremony? Maybe have a small wedding/civil wedding before the deployment, and then plan your ideal celebration in a year? Just throwing it out there as an option.
On the bright side, your issues are not related to commitment, but rather life/financial circumstances. What matters most is that the two of you still desire to be married.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
Gosh that stinks. Ughers.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
*hugs* I’m sorry this happened to you. 🙁
Post # 7
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11050 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
Aww what a shame, sorry {{}}
Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
Sorry hun, I know how this feels. I had to move my wedding back a full year when the FHs ex wife suddenly passed away. Our vendors were great about moving everything and we never even lost a deposit as a bride snapped up on our venue date opening up. It was such a hard decision, but knowing what I know now, it was the best thing. We are now much more financially stable, family is situated, and we will not have to get into our savings to pay for the wedding.
Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
I’m so sorry 🙁
Is an elopement an option? With a bigger party later?
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Sorry 🙁 Sounds like you guys are being smart about it though.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
Thank you so much for your support ladies. I have this thread up while speaking to vendors to keep me strong.
@tksjewelry: It’s really hard to see the forest through the trees right now but hearing your story is encouraging. We really think it is the best decision for us, it’s just a very hard decision to make. Most especially with only 4 months left and a guest list that was truly excited to come out and see us.
I was advised by both my lawyer and accountant that I would need to be single to complete the sale on my home, or else the lender can go after my fiance’s assets and jeopardize the purchase of the new home. So technically, we can push through with the wedding without actually getting married, but what’s the point in that? Also, financing a wedding (my fiance’ and I are paying for it 100%) along with costs incurred from buying a home is too much to handle within a few months. So holding off really is the best decision. But it still sucks to postpone the wedding….waaah!
Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
On the good side of things, I got to changs a few things I wanted to do differently, add some things that I either wanted and didn’t have or discovered I wanted, and I also had time to change my dress. I had a dress that was ok but I wasn’t in love with so I had more time and money to get the one of my dreams.
