- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hallo, Fellow Bees!!
Please read the entire post before commenting!
My wedding is in 3 weeks. My fiancé and I are basically footing the bill (which is fine), with him contributing the most. He’s been really good about the budget, but about a week ago, he realized we were going to be about $1600 short – not bad, but not great.
So, we’ve been scrambling for ideas to cut costs in these last three weeks. I suggested in passing for us to do a potluck wedding, since his mother has been a big supporter of that idea if it came to it. I figured we COULD ask our respective families to bring something, maybe use the kitchen at the Legion where our Reception is to heat/finalize food (which will cost us $100, not bad). We were simply in talks with the chef at the Legion at this point – fiancé says that making the meal potluck is going to be the ticket to most of that $1600 being saved.
So, I’m thinking our families could do the foodstuffs, no worries, and maybe we could add a few items ourselves – we are probably not having too many more guests than 80, so it’s not a big wedding. Then, I find out that fiancé has asked about 40 guests – mostly HIS friends – if they would be on board for a potluck. I’m shocked – 29 apparently said “Yes”, and with enthusiasm!
So, Bees – did you have a potluck wedding, or have been involved in any similar event? I’ve grown up in a church which had probably close to 10 or 15 potluck meals a year, so I’m no stranger to what is needed, but only at a basic level. I fully plan on getting a list of those that are WILLING to help (there is no way I’m forcing/demanding all guests to do this) and deciding who can bring what. Most are out of town, but the wedding ceremony and reception are close in time and distance to each other, so there isn’t a problem there.
Any advice is greatly appreciated!! Thank you!!
Ok, disclaimer – I really don’t want to read comments about how this is an AWFUL idea. I’ve Googled “potluck wedding” to see enough hate about it, and trust me, I DO agree with how it’s mostly socially unacceptable (the whole “you’re inviting your guests but making THEM bring food?” thing, unless your group of friends/family is big into potluck). That being said, this IS happening, so I would prefer helpful posts, and not ones that tell me I’m being really rude about it. Much appreciated!