Post # 1
So I am getting married in August of this year and someone bought us a gift off of our bed bath and beyond registry already. BBB called and I went to pick it up today (its a Kitchenaid! Yay)
When do I say thank you? Do I thank them now? I mean obviously I’m going to send them a thank you card but I’m going to see them tomorrow. Do I say something?
Post # 3
I would probably mention it when you see them, because they’d probably like to know that you’ve received it. I would also send out a thank you note ASAP.
Post # 5
dang..I am still waiting and hoping I get some stuff. lol. my wedding is 3 months away too. I did get one gift already from my registry, but my friend gave it to me in person and said it was for my birthday and she didn’t know what to get me so she just picked from the registry. lol. I was so happy though. =)
Post # 6
And one more question. Do I send out a thank you for a shower gift and another one after the wedding? Also, should I send out thank yous as gifts come in or just wait and do it all after? Ugh. So confusing!
Thanks for the help!
Post # 7
@Jamergurl921: send notes for gifts as they come in. This will make it so much easier than having all of them to do after the wedding. Also, definitely do a shower thank you note. Thank people for every gift!
Post # 8
We started getting gifts pretty early too, mostly from people who live out of town. We called them and sent thank you notes a day of two later after we received the gift. I think people appreciate you letting them know the gift arrived safely instead of wondering if it ever got there.
Post # 9
Definitely mention it when you see them tmrw! I’d get the thank you card out this week, too. A separate card can be send for the shower gift once you receive it.
Post # 10
@maggiemay0811: I agree. I had 3 sets of thank you cards. One for random pre-wedding gifts, one for shower gifts, and one for at/after the wedding. It helped me keep things straight, and also those that came to showers/parties/the wedding got 3 different cards instead of the same thing each time. Each gift = a thank you.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Each gift gets a thank you. I was always taught to send gift thank you’d after the event so that you can honestly thank the person for attending (or regret that they couldn’t) in your note as well, so that’s what we did, but we did alert people that we had received the gift and would be sending a formal thank you later.
Post # 12
@NDBEE… I love the idea of 3 different cards. I am most definitely going to do that. Thank you!
Thanks everyone for the help! My mom told me not to thank them until after which I thought was pretty strange! I told her that in this day and age, they most likely already got a confirmation email saying that I picked it up (we are having our stuff delivered to Bed Bath and Beyond). I’m definitely going to give them a card this weekend!
Post # 13
Thank immediately so there is less to do later. You will thank yourself for it, and probably want to send yourself a note!
Post # 14
Send a thank you for the early gift. Send a separate thank you for the shower gift.
Do not use these gifts until after the wedding. (I know I’ll get some flack for this but this is the etiquette board after all.) On the off-chance that, God forbid, your wedding does not occur, you will need to return these gifts to your guests or reimburse them.
Post # 15
@Jamergurl921: Yay, glad to help 🙂
Unsolicited advice, you can take it or leave it. I made a document to keep tabs on all gifts. It had a row for the person, the gift, when I got it (and cashed it if it was a check) and the date I mailed the thank you. Helped keep me organized and it’s a handy list for when those folks get married and out parents want to gift in kind.
Post # 16
@Jamergurl921: I would send them as gifts come in. People like to know you’ve received their gift. And then you can use it right away if you like.