- 6 years ago
- Wedding: January 2013
I hope you can help me with a problem I’m having. I’m designing our wedding programs for the ceremony and chose to include an “In Loving Memory” section, mostly to honor our deceased grandparents.
Well, then my fiance weighed in… and said we needed to include his aunt, uncle, and cousin. Ok… sure. I put them in. Then he starts thinking about it, and says, “Well, where are we to draw the line?” and then starts throwing out “obscure” (his words, not mine) relatives, like great-uncles and aunts, his dad’s cousins, etc. However, he maintains that these were individuals he was close with, and that certain family members present would really appreciate that, and he doesn’t want to offend anyone by leaving people out.
I say, “Baby, we don’t want to make this a huge long list of dead people. Why don’t we just honor our grandparents and include a catch-all phrase – like ‘and in remembrance of all those family members who have gone before us.'”
Well, suffice it to say, this discussion became slightly heated, and now he’s mad at me. How do I handle this without devoting half a page to every deceased relative of his? And if I do include his “obscure” relatives, what about my obscure relatives with whom I was close?
Any advice on how to tactfully handle this situation would be appreciated 🙂