Post # 1
I am wondering why a wedding program is necessary? I got asked the other day if I was having one… i was like “no,why would i do that”… but that got me thinking, why would I need one? why are you having a wedding program?
just wondering if perhaps maybe i should have one?
Post # 3
First off, programs are not necessary. It’s personal preference. However, I chose to have one for several reasons. Personally, I like something to read and I enjoy following along with the Order of Ceremony. I also like to see the reading myself as I’m not always able to understand/hear the speaker. So we’ll include any readings in our program. I know it will mean a lot to my parents, my grandmother, and my aunt to recognize and remember those relatives that are no longer able to be there…so we’ll have an “In Remembrance” section. Since my Fiance is from England, our families have not met (obviously this extends to friends as well). I think it will be nice to list our bridal party, as well as parents, by name since people can at least refer back to that. And lastly, I like the “thank you” to the parents and guests that usually concludes the program.
Post # 4
I’ve never seen programs as necessary. Most weddings I’ve been to have had them, but I honestly just glance at it briefly and then forget about it. I’d rather save the money for something else so I don’t plan on having them.
Post # 5
We’re using programs because we’re having an Episcopal wedding in a church. Since a normal church service has a program for people to follow along, its customary at my church to have programs for a wedding service as well. Also, my Fiance is Jewish as are most of his friends so an Episcopal wedding ceremony will be new to them. Seriously, living in LA I’ve only been to one wedding in my life that wasn’t Jewish, so it will be new to most of our guests.
Post # 5
I’m not planning on having one. My ceremony is going to be really short and simple so I dont see the need (and dont want to spend any time or money on something that will just be tossed)
Post # 6
We chose to have one. It started out that it was going to be just for the Dutch speaking guests so that I could provide them with a transcript of the ceremony (my Mother-In-Law doesn’t speak much English and is deaf, and I wanted her to be able to have an idea of what was happening during the ceremony), but then my mom asked me if I could do a set for the English speaking crowd. It was easy enough to do and didn’t cost me more then about $5 and some of my time. Surprisingly, I had many of the Dutch ones left over, but none of the English ones! As far as I could tell, people kept them for souvenirs/keepsakes afterwards.
I also used it as a place to ask people to quiet cell phones, not use flash photography, and to allow my photographer the perogative in all pictures. Not to mention we thanked our guests for attending and both sets of our parents for being amazing and very much helping to make the wedding possible!
I agree with the others though, it’s not necessary. It’s very much a personal choice. I liked having them and would do them again if the situation came up, but I know of people that haven’t and were perfectly happy with not having them. 🙂
Post # 7
We had them because we were having a Jewish wedding with a lot of nonJewish guests. The program included the entire text of the ceremony, with transliterations and translations of the Hebrew, and explanations of the Jewish customs.
I’ve also seen them used when some of the guests spoke a different language than others, and the programs provided the entire text of the ceremony in each of the two languages.
Otherwise, I think they are completely optional.
Post # 8
It’s not, most people don’t read them or read them during the ceremony and they end up in the trash and all that work for nothing.
Post # 9
I also don’t see the point in them at all. Just a waste of my time, sanity, money and paper. Especially as my wedding is secular, casual, outdoor, and has no wedding party. I would have nothing to put in them anyway.
Post # 10
It’s another one of those personal preferences. We’ll likely be using them as we’re writing our own ceremony given by a friend and need to list parts of it so people can follow if they wish. Our wedding is also outside, so people can use them to fan themselves, plus is gives FIs little half brother a ‘job’ as he hands them out.
Don’t question it – if you weren’t planning on doing them, don’t allow the question to second guess yourself 🙂
Post # 11
we are going to do one for a few reasons…..1) my family is spanish and there is a good portion of them that dont know english, so we thought having the ceremony written out in spanish would be a good way for them to follow along…..2) we want to have fans out as favors because its July and will most likely be hot, so we figured program fans would be killing two birds with one stone…..
that being said, if we didn’t care bout those reasons, we most likely wouldnt be doing them, as our ceremony is really short and simple with hardly any readings or whatnot…..
i agree with @thewheelsonthebus, if you weren’t planning on doing them, then don’t second guess yourself 🙂
Post # 12
You don’t have to have a wedding programme, it really is just a matter of preference. Originally, my FH and I weren’t going to have them because they can be quite costly to get made. Now, we’ve decided to make our own, as we’ve chosen a design that looks quite professional, as some home-made ones look really cheap and tacky.
The main purpose of a wedding programme is to give the order of ceremony information. It can be a great keepsake for your guests to remember your wedding. Also, if you’re having quite a long ceremony, a wedding programme can give your guests insight into what’s going on. If you are having a religious ceremony, and some of your guests are of a different religion or not religious at all, then a lot of guests would feel more comfortable knowing exactly what is happening in the ceremony. For larger weddings, or where a lot of the guests may not have met, a wedding programme can include a little bit about your bridal party, such as who they are, how they are part of your lives and what role they have taken on e.g Maid/Matron of Honor.
Some people like to include a page in their programmes for wedding quotes, poems, or even wedding jokes for more casual weddings.
It can be a nice idea to add a small section in about someone you want to remember. My grandmother passed away a year ago, and I’d always wanted her to be a big part of my wedding day. My FH and I are going to write a small remembrance section to give people the opportunity to remember her and make her a part of our day even though she won’t be there. We’re also going to light a remembrance candle alongside this.
Hope this helps x
Post # 13
That’s our main reason. We won’t be printing the whole ceremony, just “subheadings”. It’ll probably say who is doing the readings and prayers, but won’t name the bridal party or anything like that as that’s unusual here.
Post # 14
Im going to make our programs into fans because my wedding is in July. So it will double as something not just a thing to hold onto then throw away at the end.
Post # 15
I’m still debating. If I do a program, it will be so people can use it as a fan too! But I’m not sure it’s really necessary. Though personally, I kinda want one as a memento of what happened, and my immediate family might like it too. I’m having the same issue with the menu. Do people really need to know what they’re eating ahead of time? It’s a buffet so people can choose themselves what they are going to eat. Hmm. Not sure.