Post # 1
Hi, bee’s! I’ve been creating a lot of new posts lately, but I’m really hunkering down on wedding planning, so please don’t grow impatient with me! 🙂
I’m in the process of making the template for our DIY wedding programs. I’m confused as to WHO to include. My step-mom passed away NYE (she’s technically my mom because I have no communication with my biological mom), so I know I will include her as “Parents of the Bride”. I’ve seen where deceased can be noted as “The Late….” Regardless of whether I put that sub-title, I know she’ll be listed as a parent.
Here’s the tricky part. I have a grandfather that died before I was ever in the oven! So I never knew him. I don’t know whether to include him as a grandparent (he is my dad’s bio dad).
Fiance has two grandfathers who have passed away (one two years ago and the other several years ago) and he was close to both of them. We will be including them at our memory table at our reception, but should I list them in the programs as well?
Any info would be appreciated! Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
I think you should keep it consistent overall. If you will be listing grandparents in the program, list all grandparents. Since you are doing a memory table, I don’t think that you need to include your grandparent who you never knew.
It totally makes sense to include your late mother, as I have seen that happen as well.
As a note, we are going to be including the parents name, Bridesmaid or Best Man, Groomsmen, and flower girl in the ceremony. These are the same people who are walking in during the recessional.
Post # 4
We included my fiance’s grandparents (living), our parents/step-parents, our wedding party, and our officiant. Basically everyone that walked up on the processional. We also included our two readers, but their names were in the part of the program where they were participating, not at the beginning. We mentioned all of our deceased grandparents when we did a ‘remembrance’ portion of our ceremony. However, I think it’s great that you want to put your Mom in the program, we’d probably have done that too. Sorry to hear about your loss.
Post # 5
@Brianalaura: What kind of ‘rememberance” did you do? I’m tossing the idea around. However, I don’t want it to end up being too sad, since it’ll still be relatively fresh.
Post # 6
I decided not to put in the Parents of the Bride groom and such as my hubs parents are divorced and do not get along. Kinda cut the stuff of awkwards. Also we saved paper printing out on A4 paper then cutting it in half.
Heres what we did! Sorry if the pic is so large… i tried resizing 🙁
Post # 7
This is what was said:
Although there are so many of you here today, there are of course people who are no longer among us that (bride & groom) wish could share this day with them. They would particularly like to remember their grandparents, (bride’s grandparents), and (groom’s grandparents). Please take a moment of silence to call them forward in your hearts.
It was short and not too emotional. I liked it because we remembered them but didn’t make it a focus. I think it’s tough to find that balance.