(Closed) Wedding pro’s don’t take me seriously

posted 12 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 47
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

me too! im 5ft and im 19. everybody always says “youre so young!” & i always want to say…”& ive probably been with my fiance longer than youve been married!” haha it makes me so mad. I went to a florist and made an appt, they were incredibly rude!! I ended up cancelling and finding a new florist. Best decision ever! I hate how people will just assume that youre not really getting married. Umm im basically waving money in your face, you should probably be nice to me.

Post # 48
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m little too. 5’2” and thin. I haven’t had too much of a problem with this, but the vendors I felt were disrespectful I just didn’t contact them again.

Post # 49
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have the same “look like I’m a teenager” problem. 

After a scheduled meeting with a florist, she said to me, “Come back when you’re serious.” 

Yes. So rude. And I would NEVER go back there.

Post # 50
1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I got married at 23 and when we went to register the cashier at Crate and Barrel gave us grief like we were playing. It wasn’t until she noticed the 1.5 carat ring on my finger her attitude change.

Post # 51
274 posts
Helper bee

I havent had this problem due to the fact that I look young but I have had some issues with wedding pro’s because I am planning early. Like some of the other girls, I am not taken seriously because I started planning my wedding 15 months early. They should be there to help you no matter how early or late you start planning. Or how old or young you are. Its like when they hear my date their eyes suddenly dart away like they are looking for somebody else to talk to. It is really annoying. If I spend my money there now or later its the same money. I dont get it.

Post # 52
136 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have the same problem, for sure.  Granted, I am young, but I’m also a professional portrait/wedding photographer, with several years of work experience and consistent income.  When clients come to me, I always make every effort to take them seriously and treat them professionally, no matter how old they are or may look.  I have had some 15-18 y/o couples come to me for facebook photoshoots or engagement pictures, and many more inquire about them…and regardless of whether they actually hire me, they know people and treating them poorly may result in losing a good reference, or future business.

I have a career, and it’s so frustrated for people to give me that “you’re not worth my time because you’re young” look. 

I finally had a good experience the other day at a local dress shop, which I was actually shocked about.  I think it was because I had Fiance with me (he’s 22, and has a beard which makes him look even older than he is, he gets pegged as late twenties often), but I didn’t even have my e-ring on at the time and I went in expecting just to look at their selection, not even to try anything on because I didn’t have an appointment.  Not only did she take me seriously, she offered to let me try on as many gowns as I would like, offered to let me borrow a strapless gown, and helped me to pin all the dresses in back.  Needless to say, I’m going back again.

Doing a lot of calls/emails has also helped, but ultimately – it was a great experience to go in somewhere and get good customer service, and anyone with good customer service would treat you respectfully even if you were sixteen. Because they never know who you’re going to talk to, or what you’re going to post on the ‘Bee. 😉

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