Post # 1
Okay this is not only for the boricuas but for any latinas out there. I just got married on Satureday 7/21/12 and to this day people keep going back and forth of how things are done in Puerto Rico. First of all we are both puerto rican but he was born and raised there been here 3 years and I was born and raised in the States. From the rehearsal to the cake cutting everything was about how Puerto Rico does it. I love my people but it was my wedding and I wanted it traditional american style. Has any other bee ran into this problem? Let me know what you think.
Post # 3
Wait so your wedding was done PR style and you wanted it done American style?
I grew up in Vieques but haven’t been there for a while, I was born stateside. FI is white but he respects the PR culture and knows Spanish, so he doesn’t mind incorporating the PR traditions.
If you wanted it to be more American I guess he should have backed off and let you do some American things. Like have some say you know. 🙁 Who paid for the wedding? Usually whoever pays gets the say.
I want to do a blend but its easier when there are two different cultures, its too bad that you weren’t able to get more of what you wanted out of it. My mom is white and my dad is Rican and my mom was disapointed that Abuelo spoke in English instead of Spanish during the ceremony.
You think maybe at some point you guys can have an American Vow Renewal so that you can still get that experience?
Post # 4
I did have the wedding American style. Even though I am puerto rican I wanted the way I wanted it lol. His family didn’t pinch in a dime only my mother which basically paid for everything. But they just argued over everything how I wanted it. It was crazy. They didn’t even like the idea I had a caterer even though it was boricua food they insisted everyone should cook. Um not me I said neither my mom it’s a day to relax. It was crazy but funny now. I told them this is a wedding with 100 invites so I want it perfect.
Post # 5
That is cuckoo. At least you got what you wanted though. Just let them complain. Funny because for my wedding we don’t have a caterer, we are cooking it beforehand with help from family because we are picky lol. And we know we won’t get a caterer to make what we want.
I think famillies always butt into things, I’m letting my family have some say because we haven’t had a wedding for so long. But putting my foot down on the things that matter.