- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So this started out as an email to my Photographer to try to explain to her what my vision is for the wedding – it ended up being me spewing unneccesary details all over the email so I thought I would post it here. Reading through it I noticed I have a lot of questions and things I need to figure out. I have added a few more details and added links if your curious how it looks in my head. I am posting hoping I can get some input and direction. If you make it through the whole thing and can come up with any advice I am ALL EARS.
My wedding date is August 17th. It will be in his parents hay-field behind their house (behind the cow pasture). I would have cut-off my left arm to get a date at a professional wedding-barn venue but the specific date of our wedding is on the 17th for a reason and I got engaged on NYE of this year. So…they were all booked – I mean EVERY barn, winery, hayfield, farmer’s market, pig auction, tractor store… – and I’m only half kidding about how many places I looked. So backyard hayfield it is. It’s huge and free and two-blocks away from me so we’re settled. Right?! We. Are. Settled.
I am huge on doing DIY. I am DIY’ing all my wedding paper, bunting, alter, etc. I might get my boutonnieres on Etsy though; some cotton/wheat/spikey puff ball things. My wedding is actually turning about 50% DIY and 50% Etsy. Handmade is handmade dammit. The things I am adamant about DIYing are turning out to be the things that don’t have a good price on Etsy because I am *not* paying $22 for ten pinwheels.
Also, I am a ‘budget bride’. We aren’t asking for handouts due to our ages and the fact that neither of us are heirs or royalty. I (currently) happen to be the most succesful of my side of the family and his paid for a wedding just last year – and fixed income (retirees). So this is all us minus a few helpful things here and there.
Ummm…Other ideas about the wedding…just to give you some more non-useful info. I really like the rustic/antique/shabby/farm/blah blah blah. But I am fighting the artist in me to make it unique. I have Blue Ball glass jars but they aren’t my centerpieces. They might hold silverware and our bouquets at the head table…but not centerstage stuff. I am ardently in love with bunting and burlap – I hope I still feel this way in two months. The artist in me is pushing for the antique/carnival theme – and I think of the video by The Band Perry ‘All Your Life’ when I say this – but then I watch the video I think it’s way too steampunk/goth for what I am trying to explain -oh- and no snakes. But, basically things for people to do who don’t want to drink or dance maybe? Like bobbing for apples and Croquet for the kids (maybe facepainting?). Horseshoes and Ladderball for others? I don’t know. Is this dumb? Is this too backyard BBQ and not enough wedding’ny’ish?
Tables will be white linen (ifitkillsme) and burlap runners with books and woodslices with antiques and vases on top. Some of the vases will have flowers and others will have pinwheels. I also like the idea of having the dowels with ribbons/bells attached in some but we have cowbells on the table for the ‘kissing’ and probably won’t do some grand exit…unless its down the aisle to go to the reception site (eg; other side of the field). I might have some of the props in there as well (I want to #instagram the guests photos). I also picture bowls of fruit and picture frames of me and him together interspersed throughout. It sounds like a lot on the table but we have 200 guests and a lot of table space to fill – and I would prefer the ‘bountiful table’ look as opposed to bare. Unsure on napkins, seating charts, menus, etc so far. Plates and silverware will be plastic but classy (I am not asking one to wash dishes at least).
Also, I can get a redic deal on folding chairs and covers…but will my guests be all annoyed if their chair sinks into the ground? Will it even happen? Will that ruin the experience? Otherwise I will be paying three times as much to seat them and I am not sure if you caught it before but we have about 200 guests.
I want this all to be in the open but I think we will have tents on hand if it looks like rain (which I am actually planning on – just to confuse the wedding gods). His Dad knows a guy with a HUGE grill so meat will be a pig roast or BBQ chicken (with a few hamburgs for the picky eaters) or both. Do I have to offer more then that? We are catering the side-dishes in. Cake will be an unfrosted mountain of angel food cake and strawberries. And the favors are Grandma’s Jam in cute tiny little jars.
Can’t decide if I should have a ‘bar’ or if I should do the signature drinks and have some kegs. We might be a heavy drinking bunch and by ‘might’ I mean ‘will-be’. I have a girl who I have seen do the bartender/wedding thing before but will I save money one way or the other? What if she is just in charge of filling the cups with the keg and the signature drinks? Instead of a full-bar?
Ceremony arch will be super simple – white linen over a branchy arch thing. I’d die for church pews or benches instead of ‘wedding chairs’ but I am not finding them easily. Should I make them? Bridal party will be all in unmatched floral sundresses, (like this and this) simple pearls, and cowboy boots. Guys will be in vests and sleeves rolled up. Can’t decide between grey or khaki right now or what they would wear for shoes so they didn’t look weird next to the girls in cowboy boots.
Flowers will be semi-natural looking. I won’t have anyone carrying a supertightly banded ball of flowers on a stick – cuz it’s weird. Can’t decide if I want them bright to match the floral of the dresses or romantically muted so everything isn’t obnoxiously overebearing and clashy (or all white for elegant?). My dress is all lace and I will be in boots too. Other then that I want bunting and globe lights everywhere. In the tents – in the trees – in the *portajohns – maybe hanging from huge balloons…
Portajohns…we are in a field. I have to do this…I hate it but I can’t think of another more elegant way to logistically handle this. The house is too far away to make people walk and we can’t have 200 ppl running though the living room. Will this ruin the wedding? Will people only remember this when they leave…”I had to use a porta-john- It was horrible!” Gah. I can’t make decisions like this.
So, if you’re still reading … I may have just seizured and wedding puked all over the boards. I apologize. I was partly using it to digest everything I did and did not have decided yet so while it got a little messy it was therapeutic. So I guess there’s that. Please send me your opinions and hopefully your sage advice!