(Closed) Wedding Pusher.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my grandma really wanted me to move our date up. she’s getting up there in age, and i’m sure she was just worried about being able to make it. plus, for her wedding she didn’t have to do any planning. she wore a suit and i don’t even think they had cake and punch, so she doesn’t understand why it takes so long to plan.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Strange stuff.  I never had that experience.  Well, my Aunt did push a lot of other wedding related stuff.  But no one said anything about the date.  Obviously you should not choose a date sooner than you want because of her.  You guys are smart to wait until you’re done with college.  She’ll eventually realize she’s not as persuasive as she thought.  It can be frustrating, for sure, but just try to ignore it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

My dad’s sister was a bit like that, she was perfectly nice about it but it was still a bit odd. When I mentioned it to dad he said it was probably because she didn’t approve of us living in sin 🙂

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

some of those things would annoy me too. I have a crazy opininated aunt.  keeps telling me dad to demand things from my fiancee’s family. or to serve cheap liqour , who needs top shelf for their guests.  She’s driving me crazy.

Post # 9
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48 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes, this just happened to me!  When we made our first go of planning after getting engaged Valentine’s 2009, shooting for this September, the demands of everyone around me got to be too much, and I gave up and said it was going to have to wait till next year.

Fast forward to two weeks ago and my mom lets me know she still has the hall rented and wonders if we wanted to elope and have a party.  Future Mother-In-Law couldn’t stand the thought of us eloping so she called a million people, figured out how to bend the rules to get us around the 3 day certificate waiting period, and basically gave me no excuse to say no to marrying on September 4 as originally planned, but with only 7 weeks to plan it and with an infant in tow.  Should be interesting!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I didn’t have the joy of working around a pusher….but I can only imagine.  I would probably mention something, or have your mom talk to her.  You don’t need the added pressure.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

wow… that’s just… wow. 

I thought MY family was bad, but they’re pansies compared to ya’lls!!!  Ever since our daughter was born (mine and my FI’s), all I’ve heard from my brother is “when are you getting married?”  Our daughter just turned 4.  (What? we’re not in a rush!  we JUST got an apartment last year and he JUST moved in this past june, lol).

when my brother was told the wedding is finally set for April of 2012, he went “WHAT?!?  Why so long?”  ummmm… huh?  how is two more years going to hurt anything????  (at least he hasn’t asked anything since!)

sooooo sorry for the pushiness you ladies are having to deal with!  I am soooo glad I didn’t/don’t have to deal with that… otherwise, I think there’d be a scene with me standing in the center of some bodies with a tomy-gun and a gleeful expression on my face!!! LOL!!!  (well, maybe not literally, but I’d definitely have some really ticked off family members! LOL!)

Post # 16
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Helper bee

My Future Mother-In-Law is not a wedding pusher, but a baby pusher!  I am in school, still have a few years left, and we are not getting married until I am done (2013), but since last Christmas, she has been *begging* for grandkids.  She already has two grandbabies from FI’s sister.  I usually just wriggle around it with the reasons of finishing school and getting married first, but she said that I could totally have the baby while in school and she would watch him/her during the day.  Um, no.  Fiance responded to this nonsense by telling her that if she wanted a baby so badly, she should adopt one herself, lol.  She hasn’t said as much about it since then!

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