(Closed) Wedding Rant! Ahhhh!!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If the other 2 girls want a party for you then maybe they would be willing to do it. I think you should tell them ASAP and hopefully that will work out.

As for the rest…just tell everyone it’s your (you and FI) wedding and you will do what you want to make your day special for the two of you…that you hope they will attend and show their support but in the end it’s about the two of you!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Actually I think it’s a little strange that your bridal party is expected to pay for the condo. That’s like asking them to pay for the church so they have a room to get ready in. It’s just the cost of a beach wedding. That may be why no ones wanted to pay yet,they may feel it’s out of line. Maybe not but I thought I should tell you what might be up with that. As far as your dad, yeah he has no say anymore and yes your moh slacked 🙁

Post # 6
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894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with the pp, why don’t the other 2 bridesmaids throw you a bachelorette party since they want you to have one? And do you work evenings? Is that why you need advance notice to take off? What if one of your bridesmaids or your Fiance contacted your boss and let them know it was a surprise and asked if you would be able to have the evening off?

As for the condo, maybe they think since you don’t need to pay for it for 3 weeks then you don’t need the money for 3 weeks – I mean honestly that’s how I would look at it. My girls are giving me the money for their hair and make-up the night before at the rehearsal dinner so that I can have it all ready the morning of – there is no need to give it to me any sooner than that unless they want to.

For the bridesmaids dresses, can’t they just go on their own? I know it’s nice to have everyone together but, it’s not necessary, right? Trust me, I have had a million and one problems with one particular bridesmaid so I have given up any hope of having us all anywhere at the same time – I’m not even sure if we will all be at the wedding, lol!

And as for everything else, who cares what anyone else thinks about you, your fiance, or your wedding. It’s about the two of you and what you want. This is the start of your life together, he is now your family. I know all of this sucks and trust me, I feel for you but, sometimes you just have to roll with the punches and just accept that some people are selfish and will never change. Keep your chin up, only a few more weeks and then it will all be over with 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

1. Bridesmaids

It sounds like the other two girls would be willing to throw you one, next time they ask tell them moh is slacking and if they have the time you would be honored if they hosted. While it would be nice they don’t need to be there for you to get a dress take family instead, text them options for bridesmaid dress however if they aren’t there they aren’t  able to complain if you pick one out.

2. I’m going to disagree with the other poster on this. It was incredible nice of you to find cheap accomdation for them. It is not part of the cost of the wedding because they would be sleeping there, if your reception was at the condo that would be a different story.  I would send out a final email asking for payment on the due date,let them know if they don’t pay you, you can’t afford to pay for them so you will have to book a room for yourself and perhaps one for Fi. Then make arrangements if they don’t pay for their accomdation, rent one simply for yourself and your Fi, allow them to come over and get ready there morning of. Let them be in charge of finding their own places to sleep.

3.Family

As for the Family tune them out. Have a response that is polite yet firm available. For example Mom comes over and starts talking about the church, “Hey Mom, Fi and I as a couple have made a choice for our wedding, that is the plan we aren’t changing it, so there isn’t any point in having this discussion anymore, do you have anything constructive to add about the ceremony on the beach?” Then use it for everyone. Don’t engage in any talks about the church. Finally ignore them!As for your Dad keep him at arms length and ask him to back off.

4. Stress

When you are overwhelmed like this take a little time for yourself, to relax have drink, maybe a nice quiet dinner with your Fi, just time away from thinking about the wedding, for a few hours, a weekend, or a weeknight. This is stressful, and it will drive you bonkers if you don’t get a little mental and emotional space away from it. Good Luck!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@melodyfire:  Do you think your other bridesmaids would want to throw you one? Maybe it won’t be ideal if you don’t get the time off exactly but maybe something can work out?

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