Post # 1
So I attended my friend’s wedding yesterday that I helped her plan and I have some new insight on my own wedding planning/ideas/craziness.
ALL THE LITTLE THINGS THAT I THOUGHT MATTER SOOO MUCH DON’T MATTER.
I am going crazy focusing on all these little details, and then I sat at a table with non-wedding planning people. I pointed out all these details that my friend had meticulously picked out and worried about for the past 6 months. Nobody noticed that there were lime green napkins, or that the tablecloths were floor length and that the bread basket had a lime green napkin covering the rolls. Nobody noticed the little tags on the favors that we worked SOO hard on. Nobody noticed the chairs and the fact that they weren’t Chivari chairs. I heard no comments on the uplighting that we had been fretting over and whether it was worth it or not etc. Nobody even looked at the menu placed on the table. It was such a reality check to realize, people just want to have a good time with their friends and family and were just excited to be at the wedding, not excited over the little details.
Things that I found out people notice. The one sip of champagne for toasts is not enough. How the food tastes is of GREAT importance. People raved about the food and how good it was. People don’t care about the break that much. Since my wedding will only be a couple blocks away from this wedding, I was really tuned into the comments people were making about the break. Some women went shopping at anthropologie (which is a block away), while the men went to the various bars in the area. They were all ok with it. People were ok with just wine, beer and soda being provided. The people who did drink cocktails were ok with buying their own cocktails.
Now I’m not trying to be negative, because as a future bride, and a part planner of the wedding, I enjoyed all of these little details! How in the bathroom there was a floral arrangement that matched the centerpieces. How the uplighting gave the room that ambiance.
After the fabulous night that I had, I’ve decided to become a less stressed out bride and come back to reality. What really matters is having your friends and family there to celebrate with you. Whatever you provide they will be grateful for and they will have a good time because they are celebrating YOUR MARRIAGE.
Post # 4
Lol- I am an event planner by trade and I echoe all of you comments. The energy in the room is what makes a wedding, and what people remember. for that matter, even as an event planner, we chose to focus our $ on the food, the music and the open bar…. 🙂 It’s not worth worrying about minutia!
Post # 5
I was actually really surprised that people did notice the little details at my wedding. I knew while planning it that I was just doing it for me, and I was ok with that. But I did get a ton of comments about my personal touches.
Post # 6
Do you guys think that maybe people do not notice the little details individually, but that they do notice the overall effect of them?
Post # 7
This is great! I never noticed details at a wedding until I started planning my own. With that said, I’m not doing “little things” at all. IMO it’s a waste of money that no one will give a second look to. The venue didn’t have my color I wanted for linens! To some, that would be the end of the world. For me? I changed my color scheme… no biggie, it will still be beautiful!! Everyone around me laughs at what an “easy going bride” I am. At the end of the day, I just want to marry my love – nothing else really matters 🙂
Post # 8
I think that there has to be a fine balance. I was at a wedding this winter that used whatever the hall had on had on hand, just a simple candle for the centerpieces, weird table layout, really there was nothing personal at this wedding at all. There were a ton of comments on how blah the whole thing was. They had a great DJ, good food, and open bar. It was one of the most boring weddings I have ever been to. That was the third similar wedding I have been to, and at each one I heard comments on how it seemed like either no effort or no personality was put into it.
Post # 9
well the little things I do is not only for the guest but for me….the memory ans the photos
Post # 11
This makes so much sence and it’s about time someone wrote a post about it! I keep trying to remind myself this because I think with us being brides, we are almost “forced” into stressing about the small detales that in reality, no one will care!
I think we all need a little reality check sometimes! Thanks! 🙂
Post # 12
What a good post! A much needed reminder. I’m about to start my escort cards, and this post put me in a nice, calm state of mind.
Post # 13
I totally think you are right, however, I like and appreaciate a well planned wedding! lol
I am putting a lot of little details into my wedding, but really they only make me excited 😀
Post # 14
I’m definitely not saying I am getting rid of or not doing the little things. I have already made my own centerpieces, cardbox, table numbers, signs, designed my own invites, picked out cute things that represent our personalities. I have bought and returned 8 out of 9 pairs of shoes haha.
Its just saying that my monthly internal battle about whether to spend more money on chair covers, floor length linens, fans for people in case they are hot and what not have been answered. Yes I think its adorable to add in little details and makes your wedding special, but its not going to make or break your wedding. If it makes you happy and enjoy your day then that’s great!
Post # 15
Yep. I don’t care about details, to the point that we’ve ended up with a reading rainbow themed wedding despite my best efforts for something vaguely resembling adult.
Post # 16
I just had my wedding and the two items people commented the most on was the food and the DJ. A good DJ or band can really effect the wedding and how much fun it is! They should be able to read the vibe of the room and what sorts of songs get people up to dance. Just because there are songs a bride or groom love, doesnt mean everyone will want to dance to it (learned that at another wedding where the couple dictated all the songs to be played and not many people got up to dance). Let the professional do their job!
And you are right. Not everyone will notice all the little things. They will remember if they had a good time or not first and foremost.