Post # 1
I had this marvelous plan to book a fancy restaurant for about 30-50 people. I realize now that pretty much no one knows each other.
All of my friends, aside from a few, do not know each other. SO’s friends also do not know each other or my friends.
Our family also does not know each other, and on my side my family is not too close.
Basically, our wedding will be this jumble of randoms coming together. I worry my wedding is going to be boring.
Any suggestions or comforting thoughts? I am going out of my mind here in panic.
We would love to do something unique that gets everyone chatting or even just having fun individually. Please don’t suggest dancing, there is no dance floor.
Post # 3
At least you know all of your guests have at least ONE thing in common: they are there to support you as a couple and wish you well as you start your lives together 🙂
We printed up personalized napkins (not expensive, but really cute and totally a hit) that had fun facts about us as a couple. The hope was that people might learn a little something about us and they made cute conversation starters.
You could also do something like put a small stack of Trivial Pursuit cards or another trivia-type game card on the tables.
Or, in lieu of a guest book, print out fillable sheets that ask guests to give you their best advice, share a favorite memory of you as a child, or maybe how that person met you? People will share their stories amongst the table and probably get a few great laughs out of it!
Post # 4
@DaneLady: Thanks! Great ideas. 🙂
Post # 5
I’m a bit in the same situation. We are having a small wedding, 30 ppl max and although there will be family members who will all be sitting near or next to each other, there are several friends of ours who are coming and do not know each other.
So, I’ve decided to make sure that even though these guests do not know each other, I will sit these people with other people who have things in common to discuss, for example I’m having my friend Marc sit beside my friend Greg cuz both are crazy about hockey and both have sons who play hockey. I will have my friend Terry sit beside my friend Sue because they both have children and both are extrovert. I’m also going to make sure there is lots of wine on the tables! That should make it easier for people to get to know each other and enjoy the evening heehee lol!
Post # 6
I had my hens last month where I booked a villa in a winemaking region about an hour from home. It slept 8 of us so I invited 7 girls who all did not know each other. We had fun visiting a few wineries and then had dinner at the villa and chatted away – it was good and the girls all genuinely seemed to have fun.
I’m also having a high tea the day before the wedding at a really nice restaurant in town. My mother is organising this. About 40% of our guests are from out of town or overseas so I am hoping it gets people meeting each other in a less formal but still fun situation – so fingers crossed on the wedding day at least most of the women will have had a chance to meet others so theres less of the ‘hi nice to meet you’ awkwardness that can happen at weddings.
Not sure what else to do, but yes pretty much the same situation as you…
Post # 7
@thisisnottherealme: All of the weddings that I have ever been to as a guest have been basically the same: A lot of people there I didn’t know. So what?
If you can seat people at least with a couple of people they know, they are happy.
We asked everyone to come to the dance floor for a group picture, then asked the married couples to stay on the dance floor. One of my friends with a microphone asked them to line up according to how long married. She went around and asked each married couple to give us a piece of advice. At the end, I presented my bouquet to the woman who had been married the longest.
Don’t know if you have room to do this, though, if there is no dance floor.
Post # 8
Actually I think it’s the case for most weddings that there are a lot of guest who don’t know each other. Don’t worry about it.