Post # 1
I own the apartment Fiance and I live in, about to come across year 2 (sept 11th). We’re looking at a bigger place because ours is only 512sq ft. Perfect for one person, not so much for 2, and a dog, and a bird, and a salt water aquarium, and a regular fish tank. And we’re planning on #2 corgi. As soon as I can get ahold of my breeder and she puts me in contact with another breeder.
We can move on Sept 11th 2012. Which is what we plan on doing. My realtor has a nice 2br 2.5 bath with garage. Or 3br 3.5bt garage. And he’ll sell mine/buy it back. Or we might even rent it out since we’re onnly 4 blocks away from the college. Not sure yet.
Anyway, on to the question. We don’t NEED anything for our current apartment. Acutally we CAN’T have anything else in our apartment. It’s so jammed packed. Is it appropriate to ask for money toward our new home, or can we tell them, wait to do our gifts until after we move and we can see what we need? I know a few things we could use here, like pots and pans. I’d love a bed from Crate&Barrel, or Ikea. But that’s about it.
Post # 3
Asking for cash of any kind is rude. If you don;t need household items, then register for fun stuff.
Post # 4
I also agree asking for cash is rude. I would simply not register. A good friend had a tiny reception, asked guests not to get her gifts as it’s her 2nd marriage and doesnt have any need for household items.
She was mostly gifted $$.
Post # 5
I know you said you don’t have space but could any of the stuff you own need an upgrade. That’s what I did for my wedding registry. I went for an upgrade of stainless steel looking appliances.
And yeah, there’s really not any nice way to ask for money.
Or, what about starting a honeymoon registry? They can pay for parts of your honeymoon.
Post # 6
People want to buy you gifts. If you don’t register, you will receive a ton of stuff that you don’t want and can’t return anywhere. So register for fun stuff that you want so you don’t have to find a home for it elsewhere.
Folks in general find honeymoon registries as equally offensive as cash registries and prefer that you pay for your own honeymoon that you can afford yourselves.
Post # 7
I see what you all are saying. Thanks bees. I guess another way we could it, is just put everything to his dads or grandmothers house. And have everything stored there.