posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Should I have a wedding registry
    Yes : (47 votes)
    92 %
    No : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Who cares : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1319 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Most people do not ignore the registries. If you want particular gifts, or want to try to avoid unwanted gifts, you should register. Why would she ignore the registry?

    Post # 4
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    There are many guests that did not want to give cash, but rather wanted to give a gift. I was thankful we had a registry set up of some of the things we wanted.

    Post # 5
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    The registry makes it easier for everyone! The guest doesn’t need to stress over what to get since they already know what the bride and groom want or like.

    Post # 6
    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Most guests want to give the couple something they will not return and actually want, so a registry lets them know what those things are. If you know you want stainless steel pots and pans, why would you want to risk a guest giving you nonstick and then having to return it (or being unable to return it)? For those guests who would rather choose something themselves, they’ll do that whether or not you are registered.

    Also, the registry completion offers are pretty sweet. At Macy’s, for example, you get 15-20% off most items + some percent back in gift card of all the money other people spent buying you registry gifts.

    Post # 7
    581 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @sweetpea87:  +1

    They help avoid the hassle of returning uwanted gifts.  I’ve always bought off registries or at least bought a giftcard to the store they are registered at.

    Post # 8
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Unless you truly are the easygoing “I love any and all gifts” type, you should definitely register!

    We registered and pretty much only got envelopes, gift cards and items from our registry. We had exactly two gifts that were not from the registry, but one was for stemware in the same theme/look as ones on our registry (but pricier!) and the other was something we wouldn’t use and didn’t reflect us as a couple that we had to return and accept an amount (store credit) that’s no doubt less than what they spent, which was already VERY low to begin with. This is a waste of their money (as the store pocketed the difference between the return price/lowest sale price and their price) and a waste of my time/gas to do the return. This is a further waste of their money bc we didn’t find anything we wanted and are stuck with a tiny store credit for nothing. This gift didn’t come with a gift receipt. The other non-registry gift did come with one, but again, it was near duplicates of something on our registry.

    Registering helps you save their money and time. They don’t have to grapple with what to give you and there’s no worries of you not liking it and having to return it. Do you really not care if you get like 5 crockpots or 3 toasters? It seems like a waste. I think the only people who can go off-registry would be your best friends that know you already have a crockpot but would love a new toaster.

    I also wouldn’t bank on guests giving you envelopes in lieu of a gift. Some people just like to give gifts.

    Post # 9
    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @lilbluebird:  +1

    I’m curious what your mother gave instead of registry items?

    Post # 10
    701 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I struggled with this too. I already had a house for two years and I didn’t need anything. I hoped that if I didn’t register that people would give money, but from what I have read that is not the case. If you don’t register then people who like to give gifts will still buy you a gift, but they will buy a gift of their own choosing. Then if you don’t like it, it’s harder to return because you weren’t registered there or they didn’t give you a gift receipt.

    As to your mom ignoring registries: from my experience her behavior is the exception, not the rule.

    Post # 11
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    At least create a small registry.  Some people buy from the registry and some people don’t.  I preferred what people bought off the registry even though I initially didn’t care and didn’t want to register since I already had a household of stuff.

    This time around we will have a small registry of household stuff we actually need and a honeymoon registry for the extras (we’re already paying for the hotels and flights but we’re hoping people will want to pitch in on experiences like an evening at the Moulin Rouge in Paris or a ride on the Eye in London.)

    Post # 13
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Def register.  It helps guests see the stuff you like.

    Post # 14
    106 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    At every wedding, bar mitzvah, sweet sixteen, graduation or birthday I’ve been to, we always gave cash and so did everyone el in our circle. The whole idea of telling people what to get me is just weird. At my wedding, probably 99% of people will give cash with or without a registry. That’s just how things work in our circle. They would have thought we were nuts for registering.

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