Post # 1
What are the point of registries?? As a child my mother always ignored the “registered at _____” bit so I never grew up believing it was of importance. Is my mother the only one that does this? Should I register?
Post # 3
Most people do not ignore the registries. If you want particular gifts, or want to try to avoid unwanted gifts, you should register. Why would she ignore the registry?
Post # 4
There are many guests that did not want to give cash, but rather wanted to give a gift. I was thankful we had a registry set up of some of the things we wanted.
Post # 5
The registry makes it easier for everyone! The guest doesn’t need to stress over what to get since they already know what the bride and groom want or like.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Most guests want to give the couple something they will not return and actually want, so a registry lets them know what those things are. If you know you want stainless steel pots and pans, why would you want to risk a guest giving you nonstick and then having to return it (or being unable to return it)? For those guests who would rather choose something themselves, they’ll do that whether or not you are registered.
Also, the registry completion offers are pretty sweet. At Macy’s, for example, you get 15-20% off most items + some percent back in gift card of all the money other people spent buying you registry gifts.
Post # 7
They help avoid the hassle of returning uwanted gifts. I’ve always bought off registries or at least bought a giftcard to the store they are registered at.
Post # 8
Unless you truly are the easygoing “I love any and all gifts” type, you should definitely register!
We registered and pretty much only got envelopes, gift cards and items from our registry. We had exactly two gifts that were not from the registry, but one was for stemware in the same theme/look as ones on our registry (but pricier!) and the other was something we wouldn’t use and didn’t reflect us as a couple that we had to return and accept an amount (store credit) that’s no doubt less than what they spent, which was already VERY low to begin with. This is a waste of their money (as the store pocketed the difference between the return price/lowest sale price and their price) and a waste of my time/gas to do the return. This is a further waste of their money bc we didn’t find anything we wanted and are stuck with a tiny store credit for nothing. This gift didn’t come with a gift receipt. The other non-registry gift did come with one, but again, it was near duplicates of something on our registry.
Registering helps you save their money and time. They don’t have to grapple with what to give you and there’s no worries of you not liking it and having to return it. Do you really not care if you get like 5 crockpots or 3 toasters? It seems like a waste. I think the only people who can go off-registry would be your best friends that know you already have a crockpot but would love a new toaster.
I also wouldn’t bank on guests giving you envelopes in lieu of a gift. Some people just like to give gifts.
Post # 9
I’m curious what your mother gave instead of registry items?
Post # 10
I struggled with this too. I already had a house for two years and I didn’t need anything. I hoped that if I didn’t register that people would give money, but from what I have read that is not the case. If you don’t register then people who like to give gifts will still buy you a gift, but they will buy a gift of their own choosing. Then if you don’t like it, it’s harder to return because you weren’t registered there or they didn’t give you a gift receipt.
As to your mom ignoring registries: from my experience her behavior is the exception, not the rule.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
At least create a small registry. Some people buy from the registry and some people don’t. I preferred what people bought off the registry even though I initially didn’t care and didn’t want to register since I already had a household of stuff.
This time around we will have a small registry of household stuff we actually need and a honeymoon registry for the extras (we’re already paying for the hotels and flights but we’re hoping people will want to pitch in on experiences like an evening at the Moulin Rouge in Paris or a ride on the Eye in London.)
Post # 12
thank you so much guys I will definately have a registry
Post # 13
Def register. It helps guests see the stuff you like.
Post # 14
At every wedding, bar mitzvah, sweet sixteen, graduation or birthday I’ve been to, we always gave cash and so did everyone el in our circle. The whole idea of telling people what to get me is just weird. At my wedding, probably 99% of people will give cash with or without a registry. That’s just how things work in our circle. They would have thought we were nuts for registering.