(Closed) Wedding Registry Blues….

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I sometimes thought about this.  In the end, most people actually gave money!

Post # 4
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I feel the same. Fiance and I went to register and I was scanning the “cheaper” version of items. And he was scanning the items on the more expensive side, but I would say he picked the most expensive. I told him I feel so bad so asking for something that is so much money seeing that I’m more of a thrifty shopper. He had to tell me that this is probably the only time that I could ask for what I really want, and if they don’t want to get it they either wont, or they will get the cheaper item.

Post # 5
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Why not change it if you’re not happy with it? 

Adding tht people will spend what they want to spend.  Your registry is more of a guideline.  If they can’t afford your registry, they’ll give you something else.  I’ve had some friends who’ve had only extremely pricey things on their registry and I’ve just opted for a gift card or cash instead of what was on the registry.  Just be prepared for things you might not have registered for if everything is on the very pricey side. 

Post # 6
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Nobody bought us super expensive stuff. it’s their choice to spend their money–nobody HAS to get you those things. Maybe you’ll just get some gift cards =]. And if you’re truly uncomfortable with it, take it off your registry, then put it on at the last minute so you can get the discount. Most of those things will go on sale in november/december anyways. i just bought some bone china for dirt cheap compared to what it was when i registered for dishes (i got married in june)

Post # 7
1509 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly I think it depends on how many people you are inviting, what your family is like and what your friends are like. 

I don’t think the type of wedding you are having is related at all to the the registry contents.  But, I think that the number of people you are inviting does.  If you are inviting 300+ people, then I think it is totally reasonable to include more expensive items on the registry since some people buy more expensive items while other people buy cheaper items.  It just depends on the person.  This is similar to your family and friends. Do they tend to really go all out on wedding presents?  Also, if your family and friends are the type that give cash, you could always use that cash to buy the gifts you wanted on your registry after the wedding and utilitze the 10% registry discount.

It’s more important that you put on your registry what you want than what you think people will buy.  On the same token, if you have a lot of high ticket items, you should also include a number of cheaper items as well.

Post # 9
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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Maybe not guilt in my case, but I was uncomfortable. Talked with FH about this, his feedback helped. Essentially the advice a family member gave him is that the wedding gift should be about the same price as a nice dinner out for the guest(s). At least in that family member’s generation, that was what was expected. I have to say, that’s what FH and I have given for others getting married, and never felt bad about it.

Post # 10
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m very uncomfortable with the registry too! I really want to register for quality items but then feel guilty over the cost…

Post # 11
44 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

One thing that helped me was that we registered for dishes, glassware and pots individually or by placesetting. It’s much more likely that we will get a placesetting from an aunt for $150 than a whole set of dishes from one aunt for several hundred. The total cost is high but the “per gift” price is much more reasonable.

It’s really just a guideline anyway. If no one wants to buy us a Dyson, we won’t get one, but someone might feel generous and then we get something we want! As long as you also put some lower cost items on there, you should be fine!

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