Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - The Gables at Chadds Ford
I love having dinner parties, but I never really understood why you “need” to have fine china, I think my mom has china, but I can’t tell you the last time she used it. My Future Mother-In-Law however believes you should choose a pattern and register for 12 place settings. I just feel like maybe there are other things we need more. I did find a set I loved…at $38 per dinner plate. Then, I found a set on Pottery Barn’s website that was similar…but is this even china? The PB set was about $48 for four dinner plates. What are your thoughts on china? How many place settings of dinnerware (casual or china) did you register for?
the expensive set from L’Objet:
the less expensive set from Pottery Barn:
If you registered for china, post pictures! 🙂
Post # 3
It looks like the PB is not bone china. I am registering for everyday china but not bone china. I got plain white and I can use that for a dinner party I mean plain white looks very fancy. So its not at think as “bone” but all bone means is that its double fired and has real ash. Tell your mother in law you are registering for what you want. If she wants to buy you a set of china with 12 places settings awesome but no need. As for place settings I want 13 so when I drop one and it breaks I still have the standard 12.
Post # 4
I think what you NEED on a registry is different for everyone and nobody can tell you yes or no. Ofcourse, everyone is going to have an opinion but it will be based off what THEY did or will do or what most people around them did.
I have no china on my registry.
Post # 5
We are not registering for dishes/china. I would prefer only to have one set and then to dress it up with things like chargers or cloth napkins/napkin rings or tablecloths. I love the set I have, even though it isn’t very expensive/fancy, and I have 18+ settings of it.
I will say – register for EXTRA settings of flatware/silverware! I bought extra sets when I bought mine several years ago and it’s the best decision ever. It seems like the stuff hangs around forever (I think my mom used hers for 20+ years before replacing it), but you start missing pieces and not having enough forks and blah blah blah. Having extra sets to add in over the years is a very good buy.
Post # 6
Yes you should pick a pattern you love. I was so fortunate, I as the only girl got my parents china!! But my older brother’s wives have received something from their china pattern for birthdays/christmas/random events. It gives the opportunity for the women in my family leave a piece of themselves behind. Way better than keeping a wedding dress in a box for them.
OH and we use our china at least once a week, if i’ve had an ick day .. it’s always nice to eat off china 😀
Post # 7
I think it is a good idea to have a ‘nice’ dishware set for company. I’m not really from an area/social group were china is neccesary. My mom has been buying me a set of fiesta ware every Christmas for years which is what I use for my nice set, so I only registered for everyday dishes. 12 seams like a lot, but it’s probably a good idea, it’s easier to get more now than it will be to find the same set 5 or 10 years down the road.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
I registered for 12 settings I believe. Not everyone wants or needs fine china. I registered for it because I would like a nice set for when I have guests over, holidays, and special occasions.
Post # 9
I registered for 12 settings AND the matching serveware AND crystal. I love hosting, and going all out, and I plan on doing it a lot when we have our own place together. Of course I registered for a ton of really cheap stuff too 🙂
Post # 10
No one needs china but I suppose for some it is nice to have. We didn’t register for it and frankly do not want it. My aunt offered us a full set of antique china and matching crystal and we declined. Unless the queen is coming for dinner our nice dishware will do.
Post # 11
we didn’t register for china (or anything fancy, really). we just got every day dishes- 6 sets of fiestaware and 6 sets of vida by espana/eva mendes. they’re pretty, durable, and i won’t be nervous about them breaking when we use them (like i know i’d be with china)
i also got my parents’ old set of corell dishes.
Post # 12
We will be registering for china, or at the very least a large set of good quality white dishes [maybe strawberry street], for entertaining.
Post # 13
Personally I’m a big fan of lovely china! I just use it for holidays and family get-togethers/birthdays but I love it despite the fact it isn’t used that often (maybe 5-6 times a year?). It just makes the meal and the table feel more special.
I don’t know what the L’Objet set is made of, but I believe that set from PB is earthenware which probably won’t hold up well over time. If the L’Objet set is porcelain or bone china, I think it’s worth the price. Plus it’s a more interesting design!
It’s possible your Mother-In-Law may purchase some of your china if she’s encouraging you to register for it? It sounds like she’s dropping you hints.
I registered for 16 placesettings because we tend to have large gatherings. The pattern I got was available a la carte so I registered for the plates, cups, saucers, etc. individually. The only piece I did not register for was the bread and butter plate because I knew we wouldn’t use it.
Post # 14
@reynaweddingbee: I am not registering for China because I was told that we would be passed down China and I didn’t want to waste space on my registry for it. A friend did point out that I did not register for China and she thought it was funny.
Honestly, I’ve only used China a few times in my adulthood. I will be just fine using FI’s grandmother’s China.
Post # 15
@reynaweddingbee: We didn’t register for china for our wedding, and I have zero regrets. it isn’t something we will use, but will be stored mostly. And the every day place settings I have now are nice enough to use when have dinner parties, and fit our style/flare we have now.
Another reasoning was, if we decided to start having formal sit down dinners at home, we would be in a place financially where we could go and purchase a set at a later date.
My sister registered for china for her wedding, they have been married 15 years and it has never been taken out of the box, and now she isn’t ‘in love’ with the pattern. And she didn’t receive the whole set either, and they used wedding money on other stuff they wanted/needed.
With that said, the all white you chose, is beautiful and timeless.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Fiance basically convinced me we don’t need to register for china as his grandma and mother are probably passing down sets to us, and I’ll bet my mom would be passing stuff down to me in time. I did register for 4 sets of expensive ceramicware on Etsy though.