(Closed) Wedding registry fights with FI, wheeee!

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
Member
1200 posts
Bumble bee

What if you start with a small registry and add some of these items at it gets bought out? 

Post # 3
Member
470 posts
Helper bee

My fiance is sort of the same way. He just very unmaterialistic. I explained to him I wanted to have the shower my mom is throwing me, and that the women wouldnt bring cash. He was confused (still is) but I told him that since I wanted the shower, we had to register. Our compromise was that I registered only for enough to cover the shower. So, we have a super small registry, so small that a few friends asked me when I would be done registering. They wanted to pick my gift from the “whole list”. I told them that was it, and when asked why, I told them we didn’t have the space, and that certain items didn’t need to be upgraded (I just bought a new pot and knife set).

Post # 4
Member
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Tell him you don’t register, people will still get you items, but they will be things you don’t even want. 😉

this worked with my Fiance, who was also on the fence about registering. We have a small registry with a good range of items (or so I thought) but we’ve still gotten traditional gifts we really don’t need. Candle holders, two picture frames that I ahhh will probably return, monogrammed towels when I’m keeping my name and we don’t really need towels, a crystal vase that is gorgeous but definitely not cat-safe hahah!

people want to give physical gifts and unless you tell them you definitely WANT and will LOVE xyz items, they’re just going to buy you want they want to give. 

Post # 5
Member
3474 posts
Sugar bee

It also helps if you tell him that you can exchange items you receive for items that you really want but can’t put on the registry. Give him some ideas of big ticket items he will like not having to pay for. 

Post # 6
Member
3474 posts
Sugar bee

musket87:  just add things and don’t tell him. 🙂

Post # 7
Member
232 posts
Helper bee

I had different cultures and ages at my wedding. Older people on my husband’s side were used to giving physical gifts and constantly berated us for a registry. If we didn’t have one it was considered cash grabby.

Perhaps don’t advertise it anywhere. Those who want to give cash will give cash. Those who want to buy from a registry will ask and it’s handy to direct them to one. 

The topic ‘Wedding registry fights with FI, wheeee!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors