- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 1999
My fiancee and I have been together since Nov. 2003. Moved in together in Aug. 2007. Engaged June 2010.
We are pre-planning the weddingfor Oct. 2013.
We have enough furniture and knick-knacks to fill a house and have no real need for a registry of any kind. Many friends already presume we are married and we are fairly frugal people.
We are saving as much as we can in hopes of purchasing our first house before our wedding…with the very real possibility of having the wedding at our house.
(I am a pastry chef/baker/decent cook and my Mom is an amazing cook. So we were planning on doing a huge potluck/dessert bar kind of thing anyway. Having it at our house would save on transporting all the DIY items and food stuffs to and from another location, as well as any location rental fee.)
My sister was recently engaged and married her husband in July 2010.
They received some amazingly gracious gift card amounts off of their registry and when they tried to use them found out someone had somehow STOLEN the numbers and used everything but $10.
Well she has since warned everyone via facebook about this and they are in the process of working with the fraud dept. at the store to hopefully retrieve said monies.
In the wake of this terrible situation I asked my Mom something that you may think is tacky. Hopefully not.
I would like to suggest that in the wake of my sister’s unfortunate gift card experience that checks be given instead of gift cards. (To avoid any possible gift card theft.)
That way we don’t have to have a registry and people will be aware of situations like my sister’s actually happening.
I was planning on sending out thank you cards with something along the lines of….”Thank you so much Mr. and Mrs. blahblah you helped us purchase new gutters for our house! Please call me when you can, we’d love to have you over for dinner and show you everything else we were able to DIY due to the wedding generosity of everyone.” Of course this isn’t the final ‘thank you note’.
I’m not set in stone about this. But, it is something to think about. My Mom thought it was a good idea and a good way to get the word out about this type of fraud. She said if anyone gets offended then they don’t need to come to the wedding. I myself am not too worried about anyone getting offended by the suggestion.
Just wondering what other people’s thoughts were about this.