Post # 1
Hey bees, I need some advice!
My SO and I never lived together and since he’s been in the army and “single” when he is in the US he lives in the army baracks, which are fully furnished. I’m renting my parents pool house but that was also fully furnished when i moved in a few years ago. I feel uncomfortable registering for gifts but I know that most people will want to know what we need. I know that as a guest I always shop from the registry. The problem is that we pretty much need EVERYTHING. We will have no furniture, no appliances, well NOTHING. So my question is, what is appropriate to register for? I already started on some things; mostly kitchen, bathroom, and bed room stuff (mostly bedding). What about decor, like a rug or some paintings? or bigger appliances like a washer and dryer? or even furniture? I might be overthinking this too much but I dont want my guest to be like “WTH!” when they look at the registry, and I know that they dont have to buy the expensive items but I also don’t want to look like we’re all about getting gifts, or breaking some wedding ettiquette rule. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
My understanding is that you can register for pretty much anything, up to and including large furniture and appliances. You shouldn’t necessarily expect to get it, but it doesn’t hurt to put it on there. Some people will want to treat you to something expensive, or band together with other guests to buy something big. Also, some stores give you a discount on things you register for.
Just make sure that you have lots of items in all price ranges – if you need absolutely everything then this won’t be a problem. As a guest, it sucks to see a registry where everything you can afford is already gone.
Post # 4
Also, remember that a lot of appliances will come with a place if you rent/buy, so that is something you may not want to be putting on there (microwave / toaster oven / toaster / blender / smaller appliances are acceptable – I wouldn’t put a washer/dryer, fridge, etc on it).
Just think what you will really need/want – a set of dishes for everything (china if you feel you need it – we are not requesting it), flatware, drinkware, pots/pans set (and some flippers/spatulas/other things). Register for ‘sets’ of these things – often times they are less expensive then buying it all separately, and then you would get all birds with one stone (like all the cooking utensils, or a set of pots/pans).
I sometimes wish I didn’t have things – I’ve already got all the things we need, as we just purchased a house a year and 1/2 ago. It’s so hard finding things we don’t need / don’t have.