Post # 1
My fiance and I are a little under a year out from the wedding, so we have started thinking about registry options. We both lived on our own for a few years before moving in together, so we had cookware and blenders galore. Then we moved in together and all of it got combined. Needless to say, there’s not much we really need on our registry aside from sheets, perhaps a new vaccuum, China, and a few culinary upgrades. Fiance thinks we should do a house downpayment fund, like hatchmyhouse.com. While I agree that the most meaningful gift for us at this phase of our lives would be a contribution to our downpayment, I think it’s a little bit distasteful to request it and could be offensive to our more traditional/older guests. At the same time, I don’t want to have to find space in our apartment for 100+ wedding gifts. Is word of mouth our best bet here? I don’t want to do something that isn’t right by etiquette standards, but I don’t want to be wasteful either.
Post # 3
@DuckEBee: Honestly, I think a fund that specifically requests cash is tacky. It’d rub me the wrong way, and I’m not a member of the older guest crowd.
If I were you, I’d register for the household items you actually want. All you can do is hope that your guests buy those items or give you cash.
Post # 4
I would not donate to any fund that specifically asks for money (unless it was a charity fund that made sense to you personally)
I would have a VERY small registry. People will give money.
Post # 5
My advice is to make a registry for the household items you do need, and tell your parents and wedding party to spread the idea of giving cash via word of mouth. I do think it can come off tacky to ask for cash outright, but spreading the word (through parents and wedding party) that while you do have a registry, cash gifts would be most appreciated it totally fine.
I wouldn’t keep your registry small and just *hope* that people give you cash, because you don’t want to chance having someone go rogue and get you a gift that’s neither from your registry nor cash.
Post # 6
@ImmaBee: +1 to all of that
I’m not a fan of “funds” when it comes to weddings. Register for those things you listed and leave it at that. Must people will get the hint and give you money. If not you can return or donate the item.
Post # 7
I would just prefer to give money. I’m not a fan of “funds”.