Post # 1
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Worker bee
I love my Fiance dearly…but home decorating is one area that we don’t agree.
Went to a Crate and Barrell registry event today…Fiance insists we need a waffle maker, some fancy potatoe slicer, and a noodle maker. However didn’t understand why I wanted a new nice set of matching dishware (we have perfectly good plates from Target he says…)
Then at home, shopping online for a new nice bedding set and asking what he thinks of it. “I don’t understand why you are so obsessed with buying new stuff. We have my plain black comforter from college that works just fine.”
Anyone else facing these kind of things with their Man? It’s driving me crazy! I just want to look like i live in a sylish home, not his college dorm room.
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Post # 3
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Busy bee
@dancingintherain24: lol ya my fiance likes cooking, so kitchen stuff he gets but decorating…not really. I also registered for everyday china and he didnt want that at all
Post # 4
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Worker bee
I think that if a kitchen appliance can only do one thing, it is not a necessity. I also wonder how old you are… sounds like your fiance is stuck in his college years. You just have to overpower him to get what you want 
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
Ugh yes!!!! He either doesn’t care ( so is annoyed that we are registering for stuff) or is absolutely indecisive. Stopped at Macy’stoday to add a few things to our registry and he got mad because I was “rushing” him looking at wine glasses. There were only TWO options we were interested in and hecook fifteen minutes deciding on one! We also registered for a waffle maker we will never use! I totally understand your struggles, girl!
Post # 6
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Worker bee
@QueensBee FI and I are both 24. We’ve been out of college for about 3 years. I know i’ll get what I want, i control the PW’s to the registries! haha.
Post # 7
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Worker bee
@RedWine13 He was indiscisive with stuff we were looking at too! We haven’t picked cookware yet. He says “well we can’t just pick the first thing we like…” why not! we like it! It got great reviews, let’s just scan it to the registry.
Post # 8
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Newbee
Oh do I know your pain?! I feel like we have been registering and trying to agree on home decor for months now. It’s not that he has bad taste really….he just has very plain, classic, and earth toned style. He already has a beautiful house….but there is NO color in it! The whole thing is done in earth tones and all the furniture is unmatched hand-me-downs from college. We have slowly started making progress…SLOWLY…lol. I love to decorate and with color, while he thinks things are perfect the way they are….
I also understand on registering for things that really won’t be used or that are overpriced. I am a very practical person most of the time…and while I understand that it is other people’s money and that it will be a gift, I would rather them spend that money on something that we need or would get more use out of.
I still love him more than imaginable, and this has been a bit of a headache, but we have finally started figuring out some things and agreeing. It has just taken time and lots of patience. lol
Post # 9
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Worker bee
@FutureMrsWells that pretty much sums him up. haha. I’m trying so hard to compromise. Baby steps!
Post # 10
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Newbee
@dancingintherain24: Yes…compromise is HARD. I was so proud of him when he agreed that we could add a “splash” of color in each room.(EVERY wall in the house is tan). But then that splash turned into about 5% of the room and only certain shades of blue….haha
Sometimes I just bite my tounge and remember that he is really trying and those little steps are big for him lol.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
I had a similar but opposite problem. My Fiance loves to cook and loves gourmet gadgets. When we went to Crate and Barrel I expected him to gravitate towards fun gadgets but instead he was super picky and picked very few items in general, most practical. I wanted to add more fun things that we would love but would never want to spend the money on ourselves.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
“I don’t understand why you are so obsessed with buying new stuff. We have my plain black comforter from college that works just fine.”
“Because people WILL buy us stuff, and we neither need nor want a rattan basket big enough to fit you in OR a crystal dish with feet.”
I just tell my fiance he has to trust my taste and vision and then do what I want when it comes to home decor. Right after I moved in with him I repainted the living room green. He was in shock for about three months but now he loves it! (It helps that many of his friends are graphic designers and complimented it a lot.)
Post # 13
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Helper bee
YES! My fiance doesn’t want us registering for anything we “don’t need.” Meaning: anything he doesn’t want but I could use. For example, I really, really want a bread maker. I like baking and I would use it all the time. He doesn’t understand why we can’t just buy Wonder Bread from the grocery store. Uhhh… not really the point. I want stuff that I would never dream to buy for myself, but would gladly accept as a gift. He also doesn’t understand that if you don’t register, people won’t give you cash (which is what he believes), but will give you stuff you don’t need, like ugly wall hangings and a million picture frames and dish towels. I still don’t think he gets it.
Post # 14
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Worker bee
Haha, we just went to Target to register yesterday and definitely had this issue! For instance, knew I wanted a new comforter and set for the bed. We’ll be getting a new, much bigger place after the wedding, and our comforter now is just a cheap thing I bought quickly for while we were temporarily stuck in our current shoebox of an apartment. He kept saying, we don’t need a new bed set, the one we have now works just fine…but wanted to register for a $400 knife block 😛 I told him that we needed to compromise and this was our one chance to ask for nicer, quality items that will match and look like they belong in a grown up home. We got through it, but I definitely think it’s just a guy thing.
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
my FI and I love to cook, so we registered for tons of kitchen gadgets that we may need. (we can always return if we decide we don’t need them). He left everything else up to me. When i tried telling him about some of the choices, he said he knew i was making the right decisions and didn’t need to tell him why.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
@dancingintherain24: We had an absolutely awesome time registering together, but we only did Target together. I did Macy’s (china, flatware, glassware) with my mom, with FI’s blessing and then Pottery Barn online on my own. We haven’t run into too many issues, but I knew that he wouldn’t “get” the Macy’s and PB stuff so he agreed to let me take the lead with those…smart man!
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