Post # 1
Now that my two huge projects for 2012 are done (the wedding first in January, and then building a two ton clay ship as a performance piece and then making the thing move, completed a couple weeks ago), I’ve finally had time to decompress and look back on my wedding day… and start those dreaded wedding regrets. I look at my centerpieces and color scheme and wonder if they were good enough, and I get sad about how many pictures we missed. I’ve also wondered if my pictures are good enough (even though I LOVED them the first fifty times I looked at them, and I think our photographers were awesome to work with). I look through them and don’t feel like they live up to the amaaaaaaaaaaaaaaazing pictures I see in blogs. I just feel like my wedding wasn’t good enough.
Thanks for that, wedding industry complex.
It’s not something I’m really dwelling on. I’m working now on a few other smaller projects: getting our apartment put back together, planning the Dungeons & Dragons campaign I’m running, helping my friend with her wedding… But it still makes me sad sometimes. Booooo.
Who else can commiserate?
Post # 3
I haven’t had my wedding yet but I just wanted to say that I remember your wedding with the masks. <— That right there means your wedding stood out to me as unique and beautiful. Stop comparing your wedding to others. Be proud of what you did. It’s not a competition!
Post # 4
I have major photographer regret. It’s not that she was horrible, but she definitely wasn’t great at editing, and was asking US what shots we wanted. She never posed us and we had to do all the thinking. There wasn’t much variety, but she did get some beauts, so I’m not completely upset.
Also, I’m mad that my friendor hairdresser had to do my hair, my 3 bridesmaids, and my moms hair and was also invited to the wedding which started at 11 am, and still decided that she would have enough time to do her cousin’s hair for her engagement photos that same morning. She was late meeting us for our hair, rushed through it, and missed our ceremony, the cocktail hour, and the first 20 minutes of the reception. I was not happy with my hair, and my MOH/sister can’t even stand looking at herself in the wedding photos because she’s so unhappy with her hair.
Post # 5
@GreenEyedMoon: can I just say how funny it is to hear another grown woman admit to D&D? I’m currently in a Pathfinder campaign myself (something most of the people who know me on a friendly or professional level do not know).
If one of FI’s people wants to come over on a night we play he says “Oh, well CoCo’s crew is coming to hang out tonight”. And he asks me if we won. Every. Time.
I’m sure your wedding was beautiful, I have just started planning and fear I too will have wedding regret after being mesmerized by blogs all these years. I’m reading A Practical Wedding, and the author talks about how a lot of those photos are not ‘real’ – it is just a snippet of the best and brightest of one event. Focus on the favorite parts of your day!
Post # 6
UMMMM, I regret DH’s uncle’s daughter-from-a-first-marriage (still with me?) coming uninvited and bringing her 1 year old and 5 year old. I had been so adamant about no children and it even caused a problem with my grandma because we asked that mom’s 1st cousin not bring his children and they ended up not coming.
I heard the baby when we were on the alter. This B***H even rolled her eyes and made “hurry up” movements during my father’s speech. Oh I’m sorry, doll. Am I keeping you from eating and drinking on our dime? UGH! The 5 year old followed Darling Husband and I around during the first half of the reception and neither of us even knew who he was!!
Post # 7
I too fear that I did not do enough.. and did not live up.. my only regret right now is my cake.. I don’t know who screwed that up but there were NO flowers on it (definitely not blog worthy). And my husbands grooms cake was in an out.. I should of left it on the cake table instead of trying to suprise him with it (no one saw it!).. I wish I danced more also (but that is not blog worthy). I also regret not trying my hair style with my veil (which was cathedral, and threatened to pull out my entire ceremony).. New brides!! Do this..
Post # 8
Now that I’m thinking about it, the wedding crasher was completely out of my control. My biggest regret right now is that I didn’t allow enough time for speeches and we ran out of time to do some group pictures. I’m worried that Mother-In-Law will be upset because we missed some of her group family pictures.
Post # 9
I don’t regret our photographers. Like I said, they were really great to work with. Probably the best of all our vendors. And I loved our pictures the first fifty times I looked through them. It’s just that now I’m comparing them to some of the other pictures I see here, and they don’t look good enough. I wonder if that’s because they really just aren’t as good, or if it’s because I’ve just seen the pictures so many times that I can’t actually appreciate them anymore.
I also am really sad that we didn’t get a lot of photos that I wanted – more of the bridal party, more and better pictures of us getting ready, etc., but that’s completely my fault and the fault of my crappy hairdresser, not that of the photographers. I’m also sad about lots of our ceremony photos, which I don’t think are as stunning as they could be simply because of our church’s restrictions on photography and because the church wasn’t very pretty.
Post # 10
@MissCoCo: lol, awesome. We actually had a D&D groom’s cake at the wedding!
@MapleMoose: Thank you.
Post # 11
@GreenEyedMoon: I really can’t understand how you feel, I’m not even engaged yet. I do however understand the feeling. Thinking it’s great it’s my own touch and I love it, then when you see someone else’s you think it doesn’t quite measure up.
Also… I haven’t played D&D in ages!!!! You get brownie points in my book for having a D&D groom cake.