Post # 1
Ok bees, I need your words of wisdom & support! My wedding is in April & most everything is already booked and initial deposits paid. In the beginning, I was searching Pinterest all the time & getting really caught up in all of the little details of the day. Then, my cousin got married in October – it was beautiful, everyone had a great time, AND reality slapped me in the face. I realized that no one really paid attention to what color the linens were or how the escort cards were arranged, etc. The best part of the day was getting to bring two families together and hang out with all of your favorite people. I vowed to myself I would chill on the details and not spend money where it didn’t need to be spent.
My parents were gracious enough to volunteer their checkbook for all wedding expenses BUT I am feeling terrible that I am spending any of it now!!! I am absolutely in love with our venue, which is an old mansion built in the 1800s. When we booked it in September, I was feeling good because it was about half the price of most of the other venues that we’d looked at. Now I keep thinking we should’ve kept looking for something even cheaper. I know the day will be beautiful but I get a knot in my stomach every time I think about how much money is going out the door for just one day. Has anyone else gone through this??
Post # 3
Honey, there are a million things that could drive us crazy if we let it. Be thankful you have a beautiful venue that’s all paid for. There’s no use in thinking about “what ifs” anymore. It’ll only drive you crazy. Trust me 🙂
Post # 4
I feel the exact same way you do. I’m so excited to have all our family and friends together in a place that’s special to us as a couple. I’ve realized that’s all that matters (which you said you do too) However, it’s okay to love your venue, even if you may have been able to find a cheaper one. Our venue is the most expensive aspect of our wedding but I wouldn’t trade it for all the tea in China (I’ve wanted to get married at the Jacksonville Zoo and Gardens since I was in high school) Thats what started your vision and it’ll be the perfect place to celebrate with everyone you love. Just look forward to the day 🙂
Post # 5
The venue is NOT a little detail! I can understand not spending $300 on shoes or $1000 on invitations, but the venue is pretty important and if you love it, it’s worth it.
But yes, my dad is contributing the bulk of the money and I feel like a mooching hag 99% of the time. :/
Post # 6
My grandparents paid for our wedding and I also felt guilty about that. However, it was all worth it at the wedding. My husband made a lovely toast to my grandparents letting everyone know that our beautiful wedding was all due to them. Then my husband continued on by talking about how generous my grandparents are and insisting that everyone should stop to talk to them and thank them for the awesome party sometime during the night. I thought it was really classy of my husband to do that and so did our guests, because they all did stop by my grandparent’s table to introduce themselves and thank them! It was very special and I could tell my they felt appreciated. And of course we (hubby and I) thanked them profusely and told them how much we loved them.
As for the details, I agree. When I first started planning I was all about Pinterest. About a year into planning I realized that my wedding was getting too complicated. Our wedding was pretty simple compared to many beautiful weddings I see on here and on Pinterest, but it was a good representation of us and of my family and our guests are still going on and on about how awesome it was!!!
Post # 7
Thank you, ladies! I guess I’m just feeling a little guilty because I’m not usually an extravagant person. I will suck it up and enjoy my day! 🙂
@6598731ssfse3: How sweet of your husband to recognize your grandparents like that. Maybe I will focus on a nice way to honor my parents & their generosity at the reception.