Post # 1
Hello Fellow Brides and Brides-to-be,
Funny how this ONE day gets labeled “The Most Important Day of Your Life”, eh? Ok so here’s my situation, I’m from the US, my husband is from Europe. We planned on a wedding in Europe from the beginning so we did our vows in a Catholic church in the US with only my parents. Then we went through all the trouble of planning a destination wedding at an amazing villa and NONE of my family (except my parents) came including some of my best friends (who would have been bridesmaids). I thought I would be “ok” but afterward (and after countless simple details went wrong despite hiring the best people to run my wedding – brides, let this be a warning to you – when you have a destination wedding, you loose ALL control)… I felt empty and like people were missing who needed to be there.
We already had our US vows last year and had our European wedding on the anniversary date this year. Would it be completely insane to have a small US wedding for my family and those close friends? I feel in many ways that so many things went wrong abroad and so many things were so “European”, that I did not get to live out my American style wedding with my family.
Solutions anyone? Or should I just let it go and try to forget about it??
Thank you for your thoughts!! xo Best of luck to you all!!
Post # 3
Why don’t you do a vow renewal and have a causal party reception afterwards, and offer pictures and stuff from your past weddings and ceremonies to let the guests be a part of it from a different perspective!
Agreed, if you are a family first person, do not do a destination. Its really hard to get everyone far away at the same place !
Post # 4
I would say go for it, but dont call it a wedding, call it a vow-renewal, because thats really what it is and it makes more sense than having 3 weddings.
Post # 5
I third that!! I would have a vow renewal and invite all your family and friends and then have a celebration/party!
Post # 6
Since you’re a newlywed and have already said your vows twice now, I think even a vow renewal would be a bit much/too soon.
Why not just throw a hometown reception?
Post # 7
Honestly I’d say that an actual wedding (vows, bridesmaids, dress, cake) would be too much, especially after already doing it twice. If I were invited to something like that for a close friend or family I’d think they were overdoing it. Why don’t you just have a party and invite everyone over and maybe show pictures of your 2 weddings.
Sorry, but that’s my honest opinion. All the “best day of your life” stuff is tripe.
Post # 8
@kala_way: Thanks guys for all your comments! Just to be clear, I had only my vows done at a church. No one was there but my parents, the first time. It was only for legal purposes. So as far as everyone else knows, I had a wedding in Europe and that’s pretty much it. But for me, yes, it does feel like a third time! Thanks for all the great advice!