Post # 17
@BrideToBe14: I spent $1000 total on flowers, and I wish I would have spent less.
My venue didn’t need flowers- it was a mansion. There was already beautiful decor, and the flowers didn’t really stand out. I’m not saying I would eliminate flowers all together, but I’m creative and used to do wedding flowers for a living. (I didn’t do my own for parts of it because I didn’t want to- it’s SO time consuming). I would have had an even SMALLER bouquet- and I already had a small one. In this case, not so much specifically because of money, but because I wanted to be able to keep it with me a lot of the night, but it got annoying to hold on to. I easily would have been OK with 7 roses total- which I would have done myself and saved $$!!
But I will also add: some venues NEED that extra pop or softness that flowers can bring.
Candles I think are a must- I didn’t spend a lot of candles myseld (but I did buy tea light holders- the venue provided them, but I found some I really liked)- and they provided the actual tealights. We rented some tall torches that held large candles- the candles came with the rental, but we spent $250 on just that and it was totally worth it.
Post # 18
I wish I could have nixed the DJ and just done the music myself. I was actually all set to do so until someone at the venue checked with a manager to see what the rules were on that and found out it wasn’t actually allowed. As a result we had to book a DJ off the venue’s vendor list (another rule no one bothered to tell us about) who ended up being pretty awful.
At our consultation he asked me what kind of feel I wanted for the reception music and had me fill out a checklist for what genres I wanted to hear which I’m pretty sure he promptly threw away as soon as the meeting was over because the actual reception music did not reflect my requests at all. At the end of the day people still danced and had fun but some of my friends and I were definitely doing WTF faces at each other a lot of the time at some of his music choices.
Post # 19
I spent. 10,000 on photography and I hate every picture. Very disappointed 🙁 ( that was for three events, rehearsal dinner, wedding, after party)
Post # 20
Holy cow! How did that happen? 🙁 I’m sure you researched his work being that you spent 10 grand on pics. What do you not like about all the pics?
Post # 21
this answer is horrible. We saw them at a bridal show and my mom liked their albums the best :-/.( frosted glass covers, etc) So she said she would pay… So she paid 8k and I paid the rest. Their Style is very dramatic/ high contrast etc And I wanted ” light and bright and white washed”. They tried to do bright. But it’s just not their forte. So instead of amazing photos in their style oand other photographer doing my style. They tried to change their style and it didn’t work 🙁
Post # 22
Ahhhh I see. I’m really sorry to hear that.. 🙁
Post # 23
More on a better photographer
Post # 24
Not married yet, but posting to follow. We have tried to really scale back in the areas that we don’t value as much, but it is nice to read about others splurges/sacrifices/anecdotes too.
Post # 25
Not married yet, but as soon as we signed the contract for the venue (a hotel, which my parents were after, not us), I had buyer’s remorse. Buuuut it includes tables, chairs, linens, food and beverage so I suppose I shouldn’t complain too much … I’ll wait till after the wedding for that! 😉 Haha
Post # 26
@BrideToBe14: I don’t regret much about my wedding, to be honest. I had a very modest 6k budget for 100 guests, and I really do feel that it was absolutely beautiful, simple, & ethereal.
If I could go back, I might have spent more money on my photographer just to get her for perhaps another hour or so. My pictures are so very cherished, and they were a last minute splurge in the first place. I only wish I had known how much they would mean to me after the big day.
I may have also splurged on a cheap DJ instead of doing the iPod idea. Yeah, basically I don’t recommend it to others.
I “splurged” on my venue & open bar, and bouquets. I am a million percent happy that I did! I did NOT splurge on our wedding cake (didn’t have one; did sheet cake instead), catering (8.50pp) ceremony decor (free!), wedding dress ($490 after alterations), or anything else basically lol.
Here are some pics 🙂
Post # 27
@BrideToBe14: I am lucky in that I can return my unconsumed wine, but, it would have been nice to skip the returning step just to save a trip! (We bought 4 cases but everyone loved our signature cocktail so much that only 1.5 cases of wine are gone!)
Something I wish I’d spent more on? I had my 2 photogs for 10 hours but I wish I’d done 11 or 12. I will have very very few “getting ready” photos, which I was really looking forward to.
Post # 28
I would definitley regret $2000 on candles and flowers, they will die. And I do like stuff that is over the top but at the same time, I am really practical. My bouquets were brooch bouquets made with silk flowers and only cost me $120. We got flowers for the centerpieces on the tables that cost us $300.
My entire wedding including wedding bands and the dress was under $7,000 and we had a champagne brunch for 100 people.
Now this price does not include the gifts for my Maid/Matron of Honor which is my sister and my BFF who designed and made my dress, because I purchaed them Tiffany Bracelets.
Post # 29
@BrideToBe14: I was budget friendly over all, but I would have spent my own money on a DJ. My Mother-In-Law gifted it to us, and he was just ok. I wish I would have followed my gut and just went ahead and booked one ourselves. 🙂 He was not worth the amount she paid.
Post # 30
@BrideToBe14: I would have spent less on my dress. It was Raidis by San Patrick, and I fell completely in love with it immediately. It was the 2nd dress I tried on. I only tried on 3 more after it, and was stuck on Raidis.
Looking back, I’m certain I could’ve found a very similar gown for much, much less. My photos are lovely, and I felt amazing that day, but if I had just shopped around a little more I know I could’ve done better. So, I don’t regret my dress (at all!) but I do regret spending that much.
Post # 31
Not too many regrets from our pre-DW reception. Our $500 for flowers and $800 for DJ were just right for us. Glad we splurged on our delicious food.
We did however spend way too much by doing a flat-rate open bar, and would’ve saved a bunch by paying by consumption. That’s so hard to know in advance though, unless you really know your guests and how much they will drink!