Post # 1
What do you think about a wedding rehearsal and dinner? My grandmother is seriously against it (but it might be because she offered to pay for the church and she might not want to pay for that extra hour).
I want to have a rehearsal- I don’t really trust everyone to do it on the fly on the wedding day. Plus a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner seems really fun!
What do you all think? Is it necessary?
Post # 3
Definitely necessary. You will sleep so much better having run through everything! Plus the rehearsal dinner is just a fun time to be with everyone before all the pomp and circumstance the next day.
Btw, welcome to Wedding Bee!
Post # 4
Hi Sara, I would totally have rehearsal and rehearsal dinner if I were you. Its too bad your Groomsmen isn’t on board though. She doesn’t have to come – or pay for it if that’s her problem. But most churches include it in their costs, mine just asked me what time on Friday I wanted the rehearsal, not if I wanted to have it.
Post # 5
I think its necessary. There is not way I’ll be ok with not at least having an idea of what I’m supposed to do and I’m sure our bridal party feels the same way. Maybe you can just do it at a park or something, so your Grandmother won’t have to pay the church? Or is it necessary to do it in the church with the priest/minister/etc. I’d definitely consider doing it if you can sway her. And the dinner is fun! Its a chance to spend that night with the closest people, try to relax and have some yummy food. We’re just going really informal and having a BBQ at my Mother’s house, it save soooo much money!
Post # 6
Thanks bees! Yes, I think you are right. I will just tell my Grandmom that I want to do everything possible to not be stressed on my actual wedding day (like having a rehearsal). And I’ll try to brainstorm cost-effective rehearsal dinner places. Thanks again!
Post # 7
im an aussie so we dont do rehersal dinners but im totally for a wedding rehersal – just so everyone knows their place and where to stand etc – its totally necessary in my book
Post # 8
I’m Aussie too, I agree we don’t have the formal rehearsal dinners like in the US (with their big guest lists, groom’s parents paying, in a restaurant etc) but all the rehearsals I’ve been involved in have included food of some kind – I think it’s just polite 🙂 I think wedding rehearsals are great, everyone knows where they need to be, they can all meet each other if they haven’t already, etc. We just had a BBQ after ours with the bridal party and some family members, it was a good way for everyone to chat and relax the night before. Your grandmother doesn’t need to be involved if she’s so against it 🙂
Post # 9
I had a rehearsal at 11am followed by lunch on the day before my wedding. It was so much cheaper.
Then again my rehearsal was the day after thanksgiving, so most people had off and was able to make it.
I had a catered lunch and it cost me $13 per person and included soup, entree, dessert and a beverage.
It was great!
Post # 10
Necessary! Especially if your wedding party guests have never been part of a wedding ceremony before. It’s very helpful to run through the whole ceremony quickly at least once before. The dinner is also a nice way of saying thank you to those who have helped support you and your Fiance through the wedding planning process.
Post # 11
More of peace of mind necessary than actually necessary IMO. If you DON’T have one you may end up stressing out that someone is going to stand in the wrong spot or something.