Post # 1
Disclaimer: I know her life does not revolve around mine, but I have to vent for a moment regardless.
I am the supervisor of a department, and I hired someone else to work with me in early 2012. Trained her, etc.
My Fiance proposed in October 2012, and we set a date for 9/13/14.
Employee has a teenaged daughter, and got pregnant a few months after she was hired, due in September 2013. She said that was the last ‘surprise’ she wanted.
It was very difficult to do twice the workload whild she was out for 3 months on leave, but I managed. I was just grateful that it didn’t happen during the time of my wedding.
She just dropped the bomb on me that she’s pregnant again – due on my wedding day. She’s claiming to be really depressed/unhappy about it, which I feel bad about, but it’s overshadowed by my completely selfish, “ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!” response.
🙁 argh. Thanks for letting me vent. This year is going to be a rough one.
(we tried a temp before, but it just really didn’t work out. it’s not an option)
Post # 3
@ANGELaaimt: I would hold off on your rage at her – the situation sucks, but its not like she’s getting pregnant AT you.
Have you already requested time off? I would brainstorm your options – minimizing time off around your wedding by taking a later honeymoon, getting a temp anyways (unless you own your company, they are really responsible for staffing), training a current staff member on some of your responsibilities, moving your wedding date etc.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@ANGELaaimt: Obviously someone doesn’t understand birth control.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this but at least you have a few months to work out a plan. You’re going to have to figure out the temp issue since relying on her not to go into labor is a silly plan. Have you thought about hiring an intern from a local college or community college program? They are usually very motivated since they want a good grade and a good reference plus they usually learn quickly since they’re young.
Post # 5
@Polygon: I’m definitely not going to be overtly mad at her, it’s not her fault – I’m just privately bummed/frustrated 🙁
The last time we tried out a temp, it worked out terribly, so I doubt I could get approval to try again. It’s also just hard to train/trust anyone in a short period of time like that.
Our wedding date is NOT moveable. Everything is booked and paid in full.
I’ve already requested the time off. Just about my entire family is coming from out of state, so I have Wed-Fri off before our Saturday ceremony, and I’m taking Monday as well to recoup. I am already foregoing a honeymoon. I don’t have a lot more wiggle room 🙁
Post # 6
@ANGELaaimt: Is there a higher up you can go to about this issue?! As in, you both have HUGE life events occurring on the same weekend, and so having one or the other Supervisor there is not applicable??
I am not sure what industry you are a Supervisor in, or what you do, but in a lot of them there are back-up plans to these ‘odd’ circumstances, such as pulling help from another area, another location, etc. Or, cross training one more individual in your current department to handle the job(s) that NEED done in both of your absences, whether it be for a day, weekend, or even week. Or, just posting an emergency ‘on call’ contact number to answer anythign that may come up unexpectedly, etc?!
I know in my industry, where we are open 365 days/year, 24hrs/day, etc we have me (the Direct Supervisor), my Assistant (trained to step into my position if needed), and a third trained individual in the even A & B cannot be in the office…
Sorry, I know you may not be looking for advice, but you have waited 2 years for your wedding day/weekend, and I hope work does not stress you out, or require you to be there in the event your back-up has a baby!!!
Post # 7
@beachbride1216: I’ve definitely thought about it, but it just seems so tough to train someone 🙁
We had our last temp come on two full months before she went on leave last time, but it was just no use. I work in construction accounting, and there are so many different circumstances and deadlines we have to deal with on a job to job basis, it’s just wacky. 🙁 I feel like it took a good year and a half for my employee to really catch on, and she still has questions, while I continue to keep the difficult projects for myself.
Not a fun time to be a type-A 🙁
Post # 8
@OUgal0004: Advice is always welcome, even if we can’t apply it 🙂
I’ve talked to the big boss about this briefly, even though my employee stated she isn’t really telling anyone yet. I trust the big boss to keep her mouth shut, and I need her assistance on the contingency situation. My boss said she’ll certainly do what she can to help, but she’s pretty removed from it, so I’ll have to give her a refresher course regardless.
We have three total people in accounting, and the remaining person is super ‘old school’ and unwilling to learn new things, so that’s out.
Thank you though!