(Closed) wedding, relationship is over part 2 surprise i didn't expect

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That’s exactly how it felt when I met Darling Husband after a really awful relationship. I wasn’t trying to meet anybody and I even declined his first request for a date because I was worried it was “too soon”…whatever that means. The truth is, I had been mentally checked out of my last relationship for so long, that it didn’t take long to really mourn the end of it.

Don’t rush anything, of course, and use the tools you’ve learned from your last relationship (INTUITION!), but don’t let anybody tell you it’s not the right time. That’s your decision to make.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am glad to hear you are so happy! Like PP have said, don’t rush. Just let it be. I met my current SO after getting out of a very unhealthy relationship and I was so scared I was just rebouding. Like you, he made me feel completely different than my ex did. He was romantic and it was a wonderful change. We’ve been together for almost 3 years now and I’m just waiting on my ring.

Best of luck to you!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Um I was in the same boat as you! I had mentally checked out of my marriage long before I left. About 1 month after I left I ran in to someone I hadn’t seen in years, we just hung out as friends with other friends for about 3 months and then started dating and we’ve now been together over a year and live together and I have NEVER been happier! Obviously don’t rush anything you aren’t ready for but I’m on the side to say just go with what makes you happy! My choice to start dating my now Boyfriend or Best Friend was mine alone, I know MANY people didn’t understand or think it was right but seriously F them. You have to do what makes YOU happy, the rest will fall in to place.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@malouloune:  So glad to hear you’re in a happy place in your life.  Sometimes it takes a bit of misery before you get to something good.  In the wise words of Harvey Dent, “the night is darkest before the dawn.”

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I was the first person Fiance dated after his divorce, so not all post-breakup relationships are rebounds.  We built a strong friendship first and dated for 3.5 years before getting engaged.  It’s good to hear that you are happy!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I am so so so happy for you! Keeping you in my prayers and I wish you the best!

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

I met Dh while I was in the midst of divorcing my abusive ex.  He understood and took things very slowly.  In fact, it was an old fashioned courtship.

We ended up with a solid base of friendship that evolved into more over nearly a year.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Catal Restaurant

So happy to hear that everything is working out for you so far. ALWAYS KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!!!!

Wink

Post # 14
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Worker bee

When it’s right, it’s right. Sounds like perfect timing. So glad you’re happy!

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