Post # 1
My wedding which was originally supposed to be 10-10-10 had to be rescheduled thanks to last minute immigration issues By the grace of God our vendors were very understanding (on the grounds that we give them the business on a different day) and we only lost one deposit. I have heard of venues wanting the full amount for the event if you cancel in under 60 days (we were a lot less than that) so it was pretty good that we didn’t wind up having to pay for nothing!
That said, everything was done and we were all set to go but now we have to start all over again. Since the wedding was so close we already had a confirmed guest list now I wonder:
Do I send out invites to everyone again in case people who weren’t able to come before might be available on the new day or just stick to the people who were originally coming?
Since things have changed we obviously need to send out new invites but do I need to include the accomodations card (the hotel is the same – Hilton was soooo sweet about us rescheduling!) and the directions card since the venue is the same?
What is the proper etiquette – should we send out new Save the Date cards?
Any advice would be really appreciated – I feel really awful about the whole thing.
Post # 3
I would send out invites to everyone again. I wouldn’t do save the dates if the wedding is soon though (you didn’t say when it will be rescheduled).
Post # 4
How far out are you now from the new wedding date? If it’s around a year, then I’d send new save the dates to give guests a heads up, especially those who had already RSVP’d for the Oct. date. If it’s not too far out, then I’d wait and just resent the invites. And I’d redo the whole invitation suite, hotel info included, because several guests might not know you’re going with the same hotel or could have easily thrown out the invitation when they heard the wedding wouldn’t be taking place then. Yes, I’d send it to all your original invites in case they’re able to come on the new date.
Post # 5
I would send out a new invitation card, in a coordinating yet slightly different style announcing the new wedding date and information, and personally phone each person an invite is to be sent to, to explain the situation.
If there is to be a need for overnight accomodations, I would def send out the accomodations card insert as well again.
Post # 6
The new wedding date is next summer – another 6 months out. My original invitations were a pretty complex DIY project but I still have some of the handmade paper so I guess I could do a simpler version of the same thing. I did call everyone that had confirmed to come and updated facebook, website etc. but I didn’t call those who weren’t coming as I thought I didn’t need to.I put a picture of them below – should I try to execute the same a second time or could I get away with something a little easier?
Post # 7
Personally, I wouldn’t send out a new invitation suite if the guest list is exactly the same. Rather, I would condense the invite suite onto the largest invite paper and inform the guests of the new date and reiterate that the location and hotel blocks are the same…I would also direct them to the website.
That way you can use two sheets…main invite and RSVP, and two envelopes instead of everything you have above.
I would send it to the entire guestlist though and not just those who RSVPed yes b/c maybe they can make the new date.
Post # 8
Yeah, I wouldn’t do the whole full invite again. I would just send out one piece of paper with the info on it and then perhaps a phone number or website to RSVP if guests plans have changed.
Post # 9
I’m going against the grain and saying to send out a new invite. Assuming that all the people you invited to the 10-10-10 date are ones that would still be on the list regardless of how they RSVP’d for 10-10-10, I would think you would want to send out a new invite letting them know of the date change. You’ll probably find that some of the people that RSVP’d previously, now can’t attend, and some that had RSVP’d no, WILL be able to attend. I’d also bet dollars to donuts that next to none of the people kept their invites from the 10-10-10 date.
Immigration sucks doesn’t it? We decided not to play the “will we get it in time?” game and just did a civil ceremony instead. Hopefully you’ll have no further hitches in the get-along this time around!
Post # 10
Yeah the whole immigration thing is tough…the worst of it is when they send you timelines that are completely inaccurate. We thought we could trust the governement LOL!!! Silly us!!
I am going to try to play around with the design and see if thre is some middle ground – sending the information with the invite without the 8 week turn around time it took me (while working full time and managing family commitments) last time
Post # 11
@dawnabbey: Yeah I’ve read about too many situations where the same thing happened that happened to you. My hubby and I were lucky. Had we planned something, it would have been ok because we had his visa in hand within 5 months. I know of another lady on another forum that had a huge week long thing planned for her wedding in december, she’d applied earlier then my hubby and I had, had already had the interview (in November), but didn’t get the visa until I think it was April! The crazy part is that there was just no rhyme or reason to why it was delayed for him and not for us. I just count myself extremely fortunate! When we had our couples interview for the change of status, the immigration guy told us that they aren’t held to any timelines and that the ones given really have nothing to back them.
Have you considered maybe doing something like a kit from Michael’s? It might be easier and faster for you to do…
Post # 12
I looked at some of the kits from Michaels – it is a good idea but since I still have handmade paper left over I was hoping to save some money by using my existing supplies. My fiance and I applied last year in October so it has taken well over a year. You were lucky to come through after only 5 months. That’s what they told us 4-6 months but we planned on a year just in case. At this point it will be more like 18 months ughhh. Still he is worth it! Sometimes I wish we could switch to a civil ceremony but we would lose all our deposits and owe our venue the full value of our reception – they were really kind to us but we do need to go through with the events as planned. And, in the end, I am sure it will be a nice day…though I am fretting over starting again!
Post # 13
I personally don’t think you need to send out anything! You would be paying alot just to update everyone. You said you had called and in formed everyone and updated all your sites, so i dont think you need to go throught all of that hassel all over again. The people who really matter will be there, and thats all that matters! 🙂
Post # 14
I also don’t think you need to send out anything! I would personally call all the people on the guest list who confirmed. But, some might have not been able to come due to the first day that was picked and I don’t know the etiquette around that. Personally, I would stick to my confirmed guest list I think.
I just want to say that I LOVE your invitations/suite. Please tell me how you did those? They are lovely.