Post # 1
Once I get married, I was planning to wear just a wedding band on my left hand and wear my engagement ring on my right. I have very small hands (3 1/2 ring size), and I think that having a diamond band stacked with my diamong engagement ring looks too heavy.
To my shock, when I tell people me plan, a LOT of people seem to have very strong opinions against it (including my future mother-in-law). I even had a co-worker say that he thinks it’s disrespectful to my fiance if I decide to wear my engagement ring on my right hand.
Has anyone run into this dilemma? What do you think I should do?
Post # 3
It’s pretty common for a lot of people to wear only their wedding band. I see it ALL THE TIME when I’m out.
But I know my husband would KILL me if i didn’t wear my e-ring, lol. But since you’re wearing it on your right hand, why is it an issue? You’re still wearing it….it’s not like it’s in a drawer. I think your coworker is being rude, though, telling you that. I’ts not his business what jewelry of yours you wear.
Post # 4
I think its fine as most people prefer to just wear their wedding band since the e-ring can “get in the way” sometimes.
Post # 5
I think you should wear your rings in what ever fashion you are comfortable with!!
Post # 6
I plan on wearing both of them together but I can promise there’ll be times that I’ll just wear my wedding band and leave the e-ring at home! It’s a total personal preference.
Post # 7
I know my mom sometimes wears her wedding band only. Usually in situations where she doesn’t want her engagement ring to get lost, dirty/messy. I will probably do the same.
Post # 8
I plan to wear both together but I think you should do what makes you happy and most comfortable. People who say otherwise are rude and should be.. well, ignored! (IMHO) 🙂
Post # 9
Oh my goodness that is silly that some people are so up in arms about it. It’s not like you got the rings and then decided, “Meh, I don’t want to wear them at all ever again!” Jeez. Your coworker was a jerk by the way. 🙁
For me, my choice isn’t even listed because it’s even more “backwards”. My left ring finger and my right ring finger are different sizes. Since there isn’t a matching band and due to e-ring (long story but good one!) we choose to not include a band on the left hand. I would have moved the ring to my right, but like I said before, my fingers are different sizes–which I could resize, but I’m a bit of a klutz and I’m right handed so I feared I would be banging the ring everywhere I went. Soooo, I will keep the e-ring on my left hand (has two diamonds from his grandmother’s ring in it!) and then wear my wedding band on the right.
Do whatever works for you!
Post # 10
Ultimately, I think do what you want. I also have a size 3.5 finger and wear both rings together, my band is only 2 mm wide though. Everyone comments on how delicate my rings are. If you do feel pressure to keep them on the same finger just make sure you pick out a narrow band to compliment your small fingers!
Post # 11
I’ve seen a lot of people do this. It’s not my thing, but a lot of people do it and I don’t find it disrespectful.
Post # 12
I have seen a lot of people in the older generation only wear their wedding band. Do what you want!
Post # 13
I’m probably wearing my ering on my right hand afterward, because I just don’t like the idea of two rings on one hand.
Post # 14
People are so weird about traditions like that. I think it’s perfectly okay to wear whatever ring you want wherever you want. There will be times when I wear just my wedding band, or I would wear both separately, and maybe even switch which hand I wear each on. My opinion is that as long as there is some kind of ring on your left ring finger to show you are “taken”, then that’s all that matters!
Post # 15
People need to get with the century- what business of theirs is it if you wear your rings a certain way? I’m doing the same as you; I love the look of them separate. Part of what I love about my round solitaire is that is sort of looks like a round stone “floating” on my finger. I think a blingy band right next to it would distract from that aesthetic. I love the idea of them on separate hands- it seems to keep the focus on each ring. Everyone should wear what they’re comfortable with. I am surprised by the poll- that an overwhelming majority are wearing theirs together. But whatever works, bees 🙂
And who knows? I haven’t ordered my wedding band yet, so maybe I will fall in love with wearing them together.
Post # 16
I have two friends who wear their engagement ring on their right hand. I think it’s fine. In their case, it’s because their rings were too ornate to have a band with.