(Closed) Wedding Ring Frustration

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

@BuBuBubbles:  have you tried a very thin diamond band with it? It would have a gap but I personally love the look of a thin eternity band with a larger engagement ring. 

As far as not hurting his feelings…that’s a tough one for me to give advice because my FH would just tell me to do whatever I want. He doesn’t really care about jewelry, but I’m also very active in choosing my ring. You have listed out you options and it sounds like he doesn’t like any of them, which is understandable, but maybe if you let him know that it’s not a reflection of him in any way, he would come to terms with it. 

If it was me, I would either wear your current ring with a very thin (1.5 mm) diamond eternity band, or get a new set and keep your current ring for its sentimentality. You could wear it on your right hand whenever you want to. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

How can a custom route not offer you any options you like? You custom making it to your specifications. Perhaps see a different vendor?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@BuBuBubbles:  

 

Awww… I’m sorry that the communication signals got mixed up! An e-ring is such a significant expense and there is sentimentality attached to it, so it is a touchy subject.

 

My advice would be to explore ways that the ring can be completely re-worked, using the existing stones and metal.

For example, take the stones completely out and have them placed in a new setting. Use the leftover metal e-ring and have it customized somehow, perhaps melt it down into a plain band?

Would any of those ideas be an option?

My Darling Husband originally proposed with an old family solitaire. I didn’t want a solitaire so we took the diamond out and had it placed in a totally different setting. Now I’m thinking of using the leftover metal band and having it re-worked into a simple plain white gold band.

 
Good luck!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@BuBuBubbles:  what’s wrong with just wearing the e-ring by itself? Plenty of people do that.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

Whoops double post.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

How long have you been engaged? I ask because I wasn’t excited about my ring at first (it was a princess cut) and I LOVE it now. Well, your ring is very pretty but if you don’t love it and you have given it time then it can be a problem. I feel that jewelry is expensive and because it is so, you should enjoy wearing it. I would say that you love that he picked it out and what it represents and now that you have been shopping around and not being able to match it with a band concerns you. And although you’d be open to changing the setting to something that would work better to pair with a band, since the band is ultimately a symbol of your marriage commitment. It’ up to him, but that you would love to be wear them both together forever. 

I had to change my setting once already because I’m rough with my hands and I broke it. And now I’m changing it again because the diamond is loose. It’s a hard conversation to have but at the end of the day our guys just want us to be happy. Have some options ready to show him. 

Also if you end up keeping it, have you considered having and eternity band? I think that would look lovely together. Maybe a diamond one and a sapphire one. I’m posting another bee’s photo of her rings, I think they look gorgeous

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Maybe you could take the moissy out, place it in a new setting that is just like you originally had in mind, and then keep this other setting as a RHR and put a sapphire in it? Something like that maybe….

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Maybe something like 

or a really tiny band like

 

Your ring is gorgeous,though i agree does seem nearly impossible to find a band since it has a thick band and the diamond. Our maybe alternating between wedding band, e ring, and rhr ? What about taking ring to jeweller and getting it slightly altered? 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@BuBuBubbles:  That’s actually not my ring but I picture I found on here of another girls ring. I think it’s beautiful. I don’t know how Moissy’s are graded, but I’m sure you can find a band with diamonds of similar color or slighlty less clear. There’s different sizes too. Like 1.5mm or 2mm width that will add the the beauty of your e-ring but not outshine it.

You know your relationship best and what is best appropriate. But like I said I’ve changed mine twice, the first time it was a no Brainer since it broke. This second time around I had to bring it up because of my concerns. I felt a little petty and spoiled before I spoke to him about it, but afterwards I felt incredibly relieved. One of my girlfriends advised me to just say it as casually as I possibly could, so it didn’t seam like a life and death situation, and it was great advice. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with him, start finding ways to approach these sticky subjects. I’m sure he just wants you to be happy Wink 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I love your e-ring! If it was mine I would get thin diamond eternity, thin sapphire eternity and thin plain band so I could wear any of them depending on my mood.  

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