Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’m a long time lurker but a first time poster. I finally need some advice tailored specifically for my own predicament if you would be so kind!
It’s about my wedding ring, my husband and I bought it about 18 months before the wedding. It was sold as a 1930s oval sapphire ring with pavé diamonds set in platinum. We picked it out together from the same antique jewellery shop as my engagement ring. It is a stand alone ring as nothing would work with my e-ring so I opted to wear my e-ring as a RHR and my w-ring on my left hand. We were really happy with the purchase and put the ring away for safe keeping (yes, I’ll admit there was occasional peeking…!) until we married a couple of weeks ago. Now I’m wearing the ring I’m now thinking that it’s actually made in part with white gold, not just platinum. When my rings were off for cleaning my platinum e-ring looked a different colour to my w-ring. Also, I thought I saw a slight yellow tarnish in one small spot towards the top of the band. Finally and probably most importantly, it looks yellow underneath the ring – where the back of the pavé is. The bottom of the band looks like it says PLAT 950 but I don’t have my loupe to hand. This would explain why the shop would have advertised, sold and evaluated (they did the valuation we use for insurance purposes too) it as full platinum though – we trust them and don’t believe that they would have purposefully mis-sold to anyone. I believe that the head of the ring where the sapphire and diamonds are set is WG and the band underneath it is platinum.
So, we’re a little bothered by this. We purposefully selected platinum as my metal for both my rings for its durability. I also like the gunshot grey aspect, over WG shine. We will approach the shop with our concerns, but what we’re looking for in response I’m not too sure about. This ring would not have been in the running if I had any hint it was WG. We discounted WG as I’m quite rough on my hands, want to wear my rings without worry of metal displacement and cannot be bothered one bit with tarnishing/redipping every other year.
This isn’t the end of the world, if it’s half and half then I suppose it won’t tanish quite as much as if it were full WG? But this is the ring my husband gave me as a symbol of his love (he somehow managed to forget to include the word ‘commitment’ which I will tease him for eternally!), it’s the ring in my wedding photos, it’s the ring my family and friends have seen an so on.
I’m not that sentimental, I don’t think it’s healthy so I try not to attach myself to ‘things’. I’ve only worn this for two weeks, not two years so I’m not as used to it as I am my e-ring. We have considered returning the ring and exchanging it for a platinum ring. Would that be weird? I’m sure that people would find this strange is they knew/realised the change. My husband feels there should be some compensation from the shop, but if we were entitled then what/how much? I think the shop would refund us or let us exchange for the same value we paid as they are decent people. Does that sound reasonable? I think my husband is just a little upset that there’s a potential we’ve invested a lot of money and time into something so important and it’s likely not what we thought we’d invested in.
I’m sorry this is so long – I must be making up for my lack of posts throughout the planning process! Please would you offer your views? I’m not sure what I’m looking for here, mostly different perspectives on the situation I guess and an idea of what you would do if the tables were turned. Thank you in advance.
P.S. I’m English and the ring was purchased in England, if that makes a difference.
This topic was modified 6 years, 1 month ago by . Reason: Obligatory ring picture added!
Post # 2
Maybe you could have the whole ring rhodium dipped? That way the whole ring will be that bright white shinny color
Post # 3
Thank you for the response! I could dip the whole ring but I read somewhere that rhodium can be detrimental to platinum and make it look milky? I don’t know if that’s true. Plus, I’m not a fan of the shiny WG look on my skin. It wasn’t as obvious on top as the diamonds were a distraction but now I can see the metal in between is a touch yellow.
Post # 4
You could get the metals tested by another jeweler so you know exactly what you’re dealing with. After that, if it’s not fully platinum, you can visit the original jeweler and see if another ring speaks to you. If you’re not sentimental, then replacing the ring for a fully platinum one is a great option. It’s always good to have a ring you’re not worrying about and lets you live your normal life. Keep us posted!!
Post # 5
Thank you, RoseAdore:
that was our initial idea too. If we don’t get anywhere with the shop then we’ll definitely do that. We didn’t want to waste money on something that the antique shop will likely take responsibility. We’ll see what they come back with.
You’re right about not having to worry if I exchange it for a platinum ring. I just feel badly for the wedding photos! I haven’t got them back yet so it may not feature highly…and the photos they took of the rings together can be redone I guess. My husband already wants extra pictures taken at a later date as it rained on our wedding day. I don’t know how he expects to avoid the rain at a later date! But it would be fun. God knows what my Mother-In-Law would think…I just hope the shop are as decent as I think they are and offer us a way forward. We got three pieces of jewellery from them in the space of a year and will be repeat customers so I don’t want the experience spoiled. They have such beautiful pieces. I’ll keep you updated, thanks!
Post # 6
Just have both rings valued for insurance purposes so that you can put the correct value on the house insurance. Ask your valuer to check whether both rings are platinum.
Post # 7
Thanks for this, they are both already evaluated by the original shop and they think both are platinum. I’m sure the engagement ring is platinum. We have both insured with an independent company who specialize in jewellery. As they’re both covered as platinum I suppose at least this means it’s covered for more if it turns out to be half WG. Perhaps we should have them independently valued too.
Post # 8
MrsSparkleBee13: RoseAdore: Supersleuth:
hi bees, slight update: the shop got back to us today and are horrified at the thought the ring may not be what it was sold as. We are sending it back to them tomorrow so they can test it and try to get to the bottom of why it may be two different metals.
This afternoon one of the diamonds came out too which was a little upsetting. It looked as though it had been previously replaced though so it wasn’t terribly surprising it was that one. The shop will replace the diamond for me. I feel relieved that they are responding as I thought they would but I’m still none the wiser as to what to do with the ring. I feel as though losing the diamond may be a further sign to not keep it but that’s just nonsense I’m sure.
Post # 9
We heard back from the shop and they confirm it’s a white gold head and a platinum shank. They said they’ll rhodium dip it and replace the diamond at no further cost.
Now I’m torn. Do I keep the ring or not?