- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
Hi Bees! I’m a long time lurker but a first time poster. I finally need some advice tailored specifically for my own predicament if you would be so kind!
It’s about my wedding ring, my husband and I bought it about 18 months before the wedding. It was sold as a 1930s oval sapphire ring with pavé diamonds set in platinum. We picked it out together from the same antique jewellery shop as my engagement ring. It is a stand alone ring as nothing would work with my e-ring so I opted to wear my e-ring as a RHR and my w-ring on my left hand. We were really happy with the purchase and put the ring away for safe keeping (yes, I’ll admit there was occasional peeking…!) until we married a couple of weeks ago. Now I’m wearing the ring I’m now thinking that it’s actually made in part with white gold, not just platinum. When my rings were off for cleaning my platinum e-ring looked a different colour to my w-ring. Also, I thought I saw a slight yellow tarnish in one small spot towards the top of the band. Finally and probably most importantly, it looks yellow underneath the ring – where the back of the pavé is. The bottom of the band looks like it says PLAT 950 but I don’t have my loupe to hand. This would explain why the shop would have advertised, sold and evaluated (they did the valuation we use for insurance purposes too) it as full platinum though – we trust them and don’t believe that they would have purposefully mis-sold to anyone. I believe that the head of the ring where the sapphire and diamonds are set is WG and the band underneath it is platinum.
So, we’re a little bothered by this. We purposefully selected platinum as my metal for both my rings for its durability. I also like the gunshot grey aspect, over WG shine. We will approach the shop with our concerns, but what we’re looking for in response I’m not too sure about. This ring would not have been in the running if I had any hint it was WG. We discounted WG as I’m quite rough on my hands, want to wear my rings without worry of metal displacement and cannot be bothered one bit with tarnishing/redipping every other year.
This isn’t the end of the world, if it’s half and half then I suppose it won’t tanish quite as much as if it were full WG? But this is the ring my husband gave me as a symbol of his love (he somehow managed to forget to include the word ‘commitment’ which I will tease him for eternally!), it’s the ring in my wedding photos, it’s the ring my family and friends have seen an so on.
I’m not that sentimental, I don’t think it’s healthy so I try not to attach myself to ‘things’. I’ve only worn this for two weeks, not two years so I’m not as used to it as I am my e-ring. We have considered returning the ring and exchanging it for a platinum ring. Would that be weird? I’m sure that people would find this strange is they knew/realised the change. My husband feels there should be some compensation from the shop, but if we were entitled then what/how much? I think the shop would refund us or let us exchange for the same value we paid as they are decent people. Does that sound reasonable? I think my husband is just a little upset that there’s a potential we’ve invested a lot of money and time into something so important and it’s likely not what we thought we’d invested in.
I’m sorry this is so long – I must be making up for my lack of posts throughout the planning process! Please would you offer your views? I’m not sure what I’m looking for here, mostly different perspectives on the situation I guess and an idea of what you would do if the tables were turned. Thank you in advance.
P.S. I’m English and the ring was purchased in England, if that makes a difference.
- This topic was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by howdoyoudo. Reason: Obligatory ring picture added!