Post # 1
So, I’m a nurse, and don’t wear rings to work because of safety issues for patients (and the hand sanitizer seriously does a number on rings, ugh). What I’ve been doing as a student is fastening my engagement ring either with a safety pin to the inside of my scrub pockets, or to my namebadge. However, I’m thinking I’d be more comfortable with leaving my rings at home so they don’t get lost!
I still want some tangible, visible symbol with me at work, though, that says “I’m married”, so I was thinking of getting a wedding ring tattoo. My thought was just a plain black band (about 5mm wide) at the base of my left ring finger, with a small heart-shaped area left unfilled OR filled with white or silver ink in the middle (on the top of the finger).
Has anyone gotten a wedding ring tattoo before? How much did it hurt getting it on your finger? (I would assume it hurts more than some because it’s overtop of bone!) How much did it cost? What sort of research should I do to make sure a tattoo parlour is A-OK? And, finally, how was after-care and how easily could you use your hand afterwards?
Thanks, Bees! Feel free to chime in with any advice about tattoos in general, as well!
Post # 3
I haven’t gotten one, but I have heard that it can wear off so quickly that most serious artists will avoid them.
Post # 4
@abirdword: Really? I hadn’t heard that. : / How quickly is quickly for a permanent tattoo, do you know?
Post # 5
I’ve been thinking the same thing: I’m a physio, and take my ring(s) off to work. I’ve been thinking of a white ink tattoo, so it wouldn’t be too noticeable when I am wearing my ring(s).
Post # 6
I myself don’t have any experience with wedding ring tattoos but there’s a great post on Offbeat Bride that I think might be of help to you. It features some pics of the different tattoos people have gotten,
Post # 7
@Jenniphyr: i have a heart with a crown over it on my ring finger. i think an image like a heart or something is much better looking than trying to make it look like a ring around your finger. that always seems to just look funny. i have 7 tattoos and they’re quite large (except for my knuckle tattoo) maintenance isn’t that bad if there’s color in it you may want to touch it up every 1 1/2 or so…. just make sure the shop lives up to health codes and uses a new needle each time. i love my knuckle tattoo i think it would be a great option for you to consider. oh ya also look at the tatto artists book to make sure they do clean work…. any more questions? i’d be glad to answer them
Post # 9
@Sweetie Pie 21: Thank you for your respone. How would you recommend finding a shop? Just Google/Yelp/etc.? What sort of certificates do I ask to see to ensure that they are abiding by proper legislation?
@Miss Circe: Thanks for the recommendation. I’ll definitely check that out!
@Ivorybuttons: That sounds interesting — I’ve heard that the white ink doesn’t last as long, though. Does anyone else have any experience with this?
Post # 11
Some tattoo artists won’t do finger or hand tattoos, because they are more likely to fade due to the skin sloughing off of hands more quickly and risk of infection is higher. I’m sure you know how much you wash your hands as a nurse. A good tattoo artist should inform you of how hand/finger tattoos “wear” such as they may fade, lines may blur over time, require frequent touch ups, etc. You should expect to pay for any touch ups you would need, because a lot of shops won’t bite the cost of supplies for a high maintenence tattoo.
My Fiance and I got tattoos when we first got engaged. I got ohis initials on the top of my hand between my thumb and forefinger. He got my initials on the bottom of his ring finger, which besides the bottom of the foot is one of the worst places to get a tattoo due to the thickness of the skin and likelihood that healing won’t be great. My Fiance was a tattoo artist at the time, so we were both aware of the possible outcome. He designed the tattoos and another guy in the shop did them. My hand healed ok, but needed a touch up right away. My FI’s finger healed much worse. He lost about half of the ink and what stayed is very light. Obviously, he needed a touch up too. We have yet to get them touched up though. We keep meaning to go get them done, but get busy with everything else.
Regarding white ink, this is another thing a lot artists will try to talk you out of doing. The reason is because white ink doesn’t show up well once it’s healed. White ink is normally used as a highlighting color. A lot of times, they can end up looking like a scar once they’re healed. It also depends on your skin color. Obviously, the darker your skin tone, the less likely you will be to see it. I wanted a small white tattoo on my wrist, but my Fiance wasn’t crazy about the idea. He said he’d do it, but I knew he really didn’t want to so I never asked again. Heh.
I would say if it’s really what you want, then go for it. Just keep an open mind that it’s possible it may not look as nice as it does on the day it’s done. Also, I would recommend doing it at a time that you are off of work for at least a few days. Just because you are a nurse, you need to wash and use your hands a lot, then you’re putting on and taking off latex gloves all day. It’s essentially an open wound during the healing process and you’re not supposed to keep it covered for any length of time.
I can show you before and after photos of our tattoos later on this evening if you’d like.
Post # 12
@Jenniphyr: I have one! It’s my first and last initial with the first initial facing me and the last initial facing away. The tattoo took 5 minutes, hurt as much as pin prick, and the care was super easy. The artist warned me that it was “stretch” and “fade” but it looks the same as the day I got it (about 4 years ago). I got it in black ink and my ring covers it entirely when I wear it. You can kind of tell in this photo:
With the Ring:
Post # 13
I would do it! Fiance works in the oilfields and is afraid he will lose his ring out there, so he’s thinking about tattooing a ring on his finger also.
@aliavenue: Yours honestly looks like you are wearing a ring!
Post # 15
We are thinking of going this route, since dh can’t wear a ring while he’s working. We both hardly wear our rings, so this would be a good alternative
Post # 16
@aliavenue: Yours is beautiful! Great to hear that it hasn’t faded or blurred at all — if you don’t mind me asking, what do you do for your career? Do you use your hands a lot, do you find?
@MrsBlueSeptember: Thanks for all the advice, especially about healing, etc. I knew that that would be difficult just because of the frequent on/off of gloves, and TONS of hand sanitizer/handwashing. And I definitely don’t want to risk infection (hooray for hospitals breeding superbugs!). Do you think that if I got it done right after the wedding, and we then had a week to a couple weeks off for our honeymoon, that it would be healed enough by the time I came back to work?
Sooo…I’m kind of getting a consensus that getting a “ring” design (that goes all the way around) might not be the best, but that it might be better to get just a set of initials between the hand joint & first knuckle. Is that right, oh Tattoo Experts?
Post # 17
@Jenniphyr: At the time I got the tattoo I was waitress and continue to do that for about 2 years. However, I know work as an instructor/teacher so I’m not as rough on them anymore.