- 2 years ago
So our wedding rings were finally finished a couple of weeks ago, and I wanted to show them off becuase good lord, these were hard-won. April of 2017, we contacted a jeweler via Etsy who had beautiful work and wonderful reviews. She’s a fourth-generation female First Nations goldsmith, and we’re both very big on putting our money where our mouths are and supporting businesses run by those in marginalized communities (being lesbians, it just feels important to support other marginalized groups when we can – and, more to the point, seriously, her work is astonishingly beautiful, so it was a happy confluence of consumer ethics and style.) So, I enter into talks with the artist and we work out a custom design that’s very very slightly different from an existing design (shifting a chevron ring to a straight ring). The design is cleared and approved by me, we pay in installments until it’s all paid up, and work advances in July, with an estimated finish date of about four to six weeks. Super. I’ll note too that communication up to this point had been exceptionally quick and comprehensive.
Then, I hear nothing until October 2017. I contacted the artist asking for an update, and was told that they were having trouble and would have an update soon. Cool. I don’t hear anything again after that, period. Just radio silence. I start trying to contact the artist and my emails start getting bounced back, at which point I begin to quietly panic. The weird thing though is that the private website was still up and the blog attached still updated. The artist is no longer on Etsy, so that’s no use, either. We begin looking at alternative rings. Then in April (with alternates picked out but not bought, thank God) my future mother-in-law asks whether the artist is on Instagram or Facebook. We feel like idiots for not thinking of this, and lo and behold, insta and FB! I reach out and the artist responds almost immediately. Evidently in November she had to fire her engraver for stealing her designs, then most of her staff as well for *helping* the engraver, and then in December was hacked with ransomware. Six years of business email was lost, leaving no way to contact clients, so you can imagine what a backlog nightmare existed when 900 emails were eventually recovered. She had evidnetly been trying to reach me, too, along with God knows how many other clients, and doing it esesntially as a one-woman show.
SO, fast forward to last month. I was told they were done and shown video – perfect rings – and that they’d ship soon, but there was never any tracking or anything until an international parcel from the artist’s country arrives in the mail. Needless to say the whole thing has been an exhausting ordeal, BUT, we have our rings safely tucked away for the wedding this October. (You know, like, in a couple of months…)
As to the rings themselves, they’re based on a ring in the British Museum from the 1600s or 1700s. It’s a style known as a posy ring, usually a gold ring given to a lover or spouse with a verse of poetry inscribed inside the band. The one ours is based on reads “Many are the starrs [sic] I see but in my eye no starrs but thee”. Ours say the same (with modern spelling), and are a modern interpretation of the star design from the original. We’re both super, super super happy with them, even if it did take over a year for them to get here. Life throws curveballs, and I’m happy that we had the faith and patience in our artist to see it through. Worth the wait 🙂