(Closed) Wedding Saturday and having a Meltdown- help!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Breathe!
Everything will be wonderful — you’re getting married!

My suggestion for you is to make a list of all the tasks you feel that you need to do right now, and eliminate or delegate half of them. Someone else can go pick up bridesmaid’s jewelry, your rings (someone trustworthy, obviously), maybe even your dress. A photo table would be nice, but not if it’s going to cause you so much stress — think about letting that one go. Have someone else finish welcome baskets or just decide to skip out on parts of them. I am sure if you ask some friends they will be happy to lend a hand!

You will be FINE, and your day will be as happy as YOU allow it to be! <3

Post # 4
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1347 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I am so sorry!

FWIW I totally get the anxiety attack issue. I used to have them on a regular basis, so I can completely relate.

I think the easiest way to do seating charts is to get sticky notes and paper plates, write each guests name on a sticky note, then use the plates as tables. Maybe it would be easier to just do assigned tables?

As for table numbers, they can be done pretty quickly if need be. Print out ‘table one’, put it in a photo frame and voila!

See if your bridesmaids, or other family members/friends could help out a little with the tasks that your mum didn’t bother with (grrr at her!) and just remember that you’re marrying your FI! In a few years it won’t matter if the table numbers weren’t perfect 🙂

As for the veil, would it be possible to buy one and have it express posted? Etsy or ebay will have nice ones that could get to you before the weekend.

Post # 5
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1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Make a list.  Prioritize it.  Acknowledge that it might not all be completed, and that’s ok bc you will still get married.  Figure out who can help at the last minute.  Divide and conquer.  Downshift from overachiever workaholic mode to survivor mode.  Take a Xanax.  Ignore your mom.  And hug your STBDH.

Post # 6
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1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh honey…. just go to your bedroom and lay dawn. Breathe deeply, play some soothing sounds and give yourself few hours for a nap to clear your head. You are no good if youre tired… you will just be cranky and stress out.

Once you wake up you will feel better. Your list of things to do is not that big. Deligate few tasks for each day, leaving the last two days before the wedding empty. And do it all as per your picked schedule. Call your Maid/Matron of Honor and get her to help you… that is what the girls are for 🙂

All will bea beautiful and just as you dreamed about 🙂

Post # 7
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1311 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh and if youre having a hard time sleeping… have a hot cup of milk with a tablespoon of honey in it. Not only it will knock you out but also kill any cold you are having.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m really sorry about your mom, that does sound super stressful.  Even though you took on extra tasks, it was probably a good idea.  That way, you won’t have to deal with your mom.

I second the advice of making a list of things that need to get done in order of priority.  Welcome baskets and a family photo table are nice but they aren’t necessary and guests honestly won’t miss them.  Dress, shoes, and jewelrey, however, are important.

Next, recruit some help!  I know your mom stresses you out, but what about your FI? His mom? Your BMs, other friends, or other family?  I don’t know what your relationship is like with the rest of your family (aunts, uncles, cousins, etc) but a lot of mine (even the ones out of town) came over a few days before the wedding and helped with last minute stuff (programs, aisle decorations, packing up the centerpieces).  We odered pizza, put on My Big Fat Greek wedding, and made a night out of it.  It was actually a lot of fun and SUPER helpful.  I would never have been able to do it without them.

If not, I’m sure you can lure some friends over to help with the promise of wine and food.

Finally, take a deep breath, get a nice glass of wine or a cup of coffee and take a break.  Maybe go get your nails done or take a long bath.  You will function so much better if you can take an hour or two and de-stress.  And make sure you get plenty of sleep.  I’d much rather be well-rested so I can enjoy my wedding than have the perfect table numbers.

 

Good luck and know that it WILL all work out in the end.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep, this is exactly why I started everything early.

a seating chart – I hope you’re just assiging tables and not actual seats, but if not, just assign tables. are you having tables of 8 or 10 (or something else?). I went through my guest list (which was organized by group) and wrote names down in chunks of 10, and then I realized that 8s would be easier. new piece of paper, write names down in chunks of 8. I sat FI’s mom’s family at two tables, dad’s family at like six tables, friends at two tables, and then I had an extra table where some of FI’s family and some of my family will have to sit together. obviously I’m doing this before I even send out invitations, but I’m almost positive we’ll end up with 98% yes.

finish welcome baskets – skip this. it’s nice, but it’s not a necessity.

table numbers – go to the Dollar Store. get some nice-looking frames. print off table numbers in a nice font. put in frames.

pick up my dress, shoes, and bra – do this after work. call them while you’re at work, let them know that you’re coming in to get it so that they have it ready for you.

pick up bridesmaid jewelry and rings from the jeweler – have your Fiance do this. give him an itemized list of what needs to be picked up.

What is this other random stuff that you need to do? I would probably just skip it.

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