(Closed) Wedding season craziness – what do we do?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Honeymoon, one wedding, both?
    Leave for our honeymoon immediately after our wedding and send regrets : (25 votes)
    68 %
    Attend the wedding across the state on the Friday after our wedding/honeymoon later : (0 votes)
    Attend the in-town wedding the Saturday after ours/honeymoon later : (0 votes)
    Attend both the Friday cross-state and Saturday in-town weddings/honeymoon later : (11 votes)
    30 %
    Other - please, give me your advice! : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    2063 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Your wedding was booked before you were aware of the other weddings – not that they would have changed your mind. I think you would regreet postponing the honeymoon more then missing the friend’s weddings but alot of people would color me selfish.

    I guess that is really the question to ask: What is  the greater opprotunity cost?

    Post # 4
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Hi Ellegee! Tough, crummy situation for you to be in!  I’m sorry to hear this, I would be so bummed if I were you. 

    If it were me, I would try to attend both friends’ weddings if you feel that close to them.  Just like us, they also are only getting married once, and want their friends and fams to make it.  However, people do understand that you can’t make everything, so if you have to miss their weddings, I would hope they would be ok in the end.  But if you haven’t booked your honeymoon plans, maybe there’s a way you could still attend one or both of the weddings if you’re inclinded to, and push the honeymoon back or forward slightly? 

    Post # 5
    1158 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Too bad they didn’t think to ask the details of your honeymoon.I would go on my honeymoon,write them a nice note and send a gift. Maybe promise to get together once you get back.

    Post # 6
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Let them know that while you would love to be at their weddings, you already booked your honeymoon, and wish them the best.  

    Post # 7
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think you just have to decide which YOU would regret missing more.  I’m sure they would understand, as it’s fairly common to have a honeymoon right after the wedding, and if they were aware of your date before they booked theirs, I’m sure they were conscious that that might be a possiblity.

    Post # 8
    1725 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Could you just come back Thursday?

    Post # 9
    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I agree, it boils down to what matters most to you and your fiance.  I think sticking to your honeymoon as planned is a legitimate choice and could be made on a guilt-free basis.  I could also understand choosing to modify your plans because you will regret missing your friends’ weddings.

    I definitely recommend taking a few days together after your wedding.  You will need some time to unwind and absorb everything together.  Personally, I don’t think it matters much if this happens on a beach in Puerto Rico as long as you can carve out a little privacy.  You should make sure you get the time/space though.

    For various logistical reasons, we went on a 5-night mini-moon after our wedding (5-hour drive to an inn in Maine) and are planning a full blown “honeymoon” at around our 11-month-iversary.  It worked well for us to decouple the glamorous trip from the right-after-the-wedding time to unwind.

    Post # 11
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    How necessary is it that you leave ASAP after your wedding for your honeymoon? I would hate to miss two very close friends’ weddings…perhaps you could push back your honeymoon one week? You may enjoy having extra time to pack/unwind/send thank you notes, etc before rushing off to the honeymoon as well! Good luck 🙂

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