Post # 1
ok – so i gots a couple questions. since apparantly we are absolutely NOT supposed to put anywhere in our invitations where we are registered…HOW is everyone supposed to know?
I know it’s the bridal shower invite that should state where we are registered – but honestly – are we supposed to invite EVERYONE who’s invited to the wedding also to the bridal shower? Just so they’ll know where we are registered? Also – should the bridal shower be both him and me? He’s TOTALLY not the kind of guy who’d want to be involved in the shower and wouldn’t be more uncomfortable if I made him go.
I know – technically – guests don’t even have to GIVE you anything as you’re really just inviting people to celebrate your love. and I don’t want to come off sounding selfish here with these questions – BUT the obvious question is, then, what’s the point of registering?
Also – we have decided to register at both Target and Bed Bath and Beyond (have started both already) – do we register for the same items at both places? obviously if we get two of the same item we can always take one back and i’m SURE we’ll get two of the same item at one point or another…
I just don’t know. please help!
Post # 3
Are you doing a wedding website? I think it’s generally considered kosher to include the registry info there for your wedding guests to check out.
Regarding duplicating the same items, there’s another thread going on right now about this same topic under the “gifts” heading. General consensus seems to be “don’t duplicate,” though there’s some fair arguments in favor of it.
Post # 4
If you have a wedding website, you could list your where you are registered at there. You may also need to rely on word of mouth. Make sure your immediate family and wedding party know where you are registered because your other friends and family may ask them.
Post # 5
if you have a wedding website, you can lead people to that and your registry info will be on there. also, people will want to know where your registered and they will ask, so they will know by word of mouth.
your fi doesn’t have to go to your shower, but if you want to you can have a couples shower, those are common now. my fi didn’t feel comfortable with the couples shower but we had my shower at a country club for a brunch and the boys all had their own little brunch in the next room. they ended up coming in now and then to check things out, and it was really nice to have him there.
you DON’T want to register for two of the same things at different places. you WILL end up getting two of the same things. we didn’t do that and we still have been returning duplicates because stores registries just mess up. and returning things isn’t fun. (at target at least. at bb&b you get $$$$).
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Usually, as the previous posters said, you will list your wedding website on the invitation, and then the registry information will be there. Also, I know that a lot of times it happens through word of mouth from people simply asking!
Post # 7
It used to be more complicated…word of mouth and asking people (MOH, mother of the bride, etc) and then the lovely world wide web came about…and now wedding websites are where most people find it nowadays…except older folks, who will still ask you mom 🙂
Post # 8
I’ll answer who to invite to the shower. Your mom, grandmothers, his mom, his grandmothers and bridesmaids are generally always included in all showers but of course not expected to come to all of them if you are having more then one shower. The guest list might depend on who is hosting the shower and the type of shower. For instance, lingerie shower you’d invite your close girlfriends you wouldn’t invite your grandmother to this shower. As for a standard bridal shower, you would invite family and close friends. You don’t invite all of the women who are invited to the wedding. Be sure to find out from the host(s) how many people they can accomodate. You would hate to invite 60 people to someone’s house that can only hold 20.
As for duplicating items on the registry, remember that Target has a difficult return policy. See target registry threads to explain.
Post # 9
website or word of mouth. If people still don’t find out they will most likely just give you cash.
Post # 10
My answer to this question changed the day after I sent out my invites. I was totally against putting any registry info in the invites before because that is what etiquette tells us to do. However, the day after everyone received my invites, I got a million phone calls and e-mails asking where I was registered, that they didn’t see it on the invite. Now, keep in mind that I tried to be savvy about it, and I put my registry info on my website…the address was in the invites. But still, everyone was completely clueless.
Now I say screw etiquette, put your registry info in your invite! You will regret getting all the phone calls later…
Post # 11
@mightysapphire- you are right! A lot of people don’t visit your wedding website. We have the website infomartion on our save the dates and have emailed it out to all of our family member and bridal party. We still get questions all the time about registry and hotel information. We will have the hotel information included with the formal invitations and registry information on shower invites. It seems word of mouth is best!
Post # 12
🙂 I may just have to tick off my Maid/Matron of Honor (who is like freakin’ etiquette QUEEN) and go ahead and put the registry information on the same insert as the hotel information. 🙂
Honestly knowing both his family AND mine – they couldn’t care LESS about etiquette and I know they’d be bugging us/my mom about where we are registered…so this may be a fight with my Maid/Matron of Honor…
Yeah – I DONT’ want to invite everyone to the shower…so I’m thinking the hotel information insert would work best.
We sorta have a wedding website – but honestly I know too many people we are inviting wont’ have access nor will even think about going to a website.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I think it’s okay in a shower invitation to include a little insert that has registry info. Not on the invitation itself though.
I’m still kind of amazed that the majority of guests just don’t type a couple’s name into various store registries online. It’s not THAT hard to figure out.
Post # 14
My shower invites had the little store cards in them. Mostly because one of the store cards was also a coupon for 15% off.
And besides that, we linked to the registries on the website. Otherwise, that’s it.
Post # 15
I put it on the wedding website because that’s certainly less formal. Also people will ask you, your mother and your Future Mother-In-Law. So make sure your family knows where you are registered :o)
Post # 16
I did the website thing on my invites. I registered at two places but for different things at each. I don’t want to worry about running around and returning doubles. Plus that means twice the selection!!! i suggest the website thing onewed and weddingwire have really easy ones to make.