Post # 1
I know that normally you only invite people to your wedding shower that are actually invited to your wedding – but do you have to invite all the ladies invited to your wedding to your shower?
A lot of my FI’s aunts and uncles live out of province (state) so I doubt they would acutally come but should they still be invited? And some of my male cousines I do not know thier live-in girl friends who are invited to the wedding – do I still need to invite them?
This wedding etiquette stuff can be so confusing!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Absolutely not! It should be the women at your wedding you are closest to–usually your mother, Mother-In-Law, close aunts and cousins and girlfriends. No one could have hosted a party for all of the women on my guest list; it would have been huge! 🙂
Post # 4
No – I think the ladies that are important in your life are invited. And in some cases, if your mom is throwing the shower, usually some of her friends are invited too. As for your FI’s family, although they live far away, it may be a nice gesture to at least send an invitation. If you don’t know the people (cousin’s gf’s, etc) then I don’t see a reason for them to be invited. Hope this helps. 🙂
Post # 5
Ooh! Related question:
I am having a destination wedding — my mom is throwing me a family shower a few days before the wedding down in Mexico, but for my friends, my MOHs (2) want to throw me a shower in DC (where I live). Is it NOT ok to invite non wedding-invitees to this event?
Post # 6
Since you are having a destination wedding I think it would be acceptable to invite people not actually attending your wedding. But I would somehow indicate no gifts please so that people don’t think they are being invited for the gifts but rather that you want to share this special occassion with them.
Post # 7
@Spanial & @fancygirl – thank you so much for your comments – it was like a weight was lifted – as silly as that sounds. Now I don’t have to feel bad about who I invite and don’t invite.