- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
We had a jack and jill bridal shower back yard BBQ. I thought everyone had a great time, but since then I’ve heard that one family member was upset that her (grown) children did not receive invites. Apparently she asked about the invites to other people at the shower and also brought along gifts from the children (I sent thank yous to everyone). We didn’t invite any of the cousins to the wedding due to space issues, but other cousins decided to come even though they did not receive invitations. I put together this letter in hopes that it would clear the air. This is FI’s family not mine, does this sound ok or do you think this is a bad idea?
Dear Family Member,
I hope all is well and are having a wonderful summer! We’ve heard that there was some confusion surrounding our guest list and invitations for our wedding shower. I wanted to take a moment to explain the situation and apologize if we hurt anyone’s feelings.
While planning the wedding we’ve run into some snags in coordinating all of the different factors. Once we were able to determine our guest list we used that as a guide for our wedding shower. The shower was Jack and Jill so our guest list was much larger than that of a traditional bridal shower. In order to plan for the worst case weather scenario (our neighbor’s pond has 3 party tents in the bottom due to the high winds that always seem to develop on the hill!) we wanted to be sure we could comfortably accommodate all of the party guests in my parents’ house if necessary. We decided it would be most realistic to invite our aunts, uncles and grandparents along with a few close friends. At the time this seemed like the best solution, but in reality I think it caused a great deal of confusion with everyone. Although we did not expect the extra guests, we had many cousins on both sides of the family who came to our shower. We were very grateful that the weather was cooperative and we were able to accommodate everyone. Had we known it would be such a nice day we definitely would have liked to invite more of our family and friends!
I’m sure this is much more back story than you would like to know but we just wanted to explain why our cousins were not included on the shower guest list, even though we would have loved to invite everyone! We want to be sure everyone knows we love them and really hope we’ll be able to see everyone at the wedding! The last thing we wanted to do is hurt anyone’s feelings and we were just trying to plan the wedding shower to accommodate the chance of bad weather and limited space. Thank you so much for joining us and it was so nice of Cousin 1 and Cousin 2 to send along their best wishes and thoughtful gifts. We were so appreciative and we are blown away by everyone’s generosity.