- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
so, let me just start off by saying that FH’s family is not well off. parent’s don’t work, weare picking up some extra costs on their behalf for the wedding, etc.
Anywyas, FH mentioned to Future Sister-In-Law that my aunt was throwing us a family shower, and she decided to throw us a shower from his side. (I have no idea whether he said she should, or whether she feels like she has to since my family is or what). [as a side note to this – since FH loves to invite everyone to everything all the time, I mentioned to him that my aunt’s shower was family only – my extended side, and his immediate – this is family tradition on our side same aunt throws the shower for everyone. anyways, he got alittle miffed about it, and didn’t see why he couldn’t invite more than just imediate family, but he’s also never been to a wedding, shower, anything wedding related, so doesn’t get some of the stuff surrounding weddings].
anyways, I just feel weird about the whole thing. she texted me last night and said “I need a list of everyone that (he) invited to the wedding” so I asked whether she wanted family or friends, and she replied “I thought I was supposed to invite everyone that he invited to the wedding. I’ve never done this before.”
So I explained a little bit about what the shower was, who is usually invited etc. So, she’s doing a family shower (all of whom are invited to the wedding). and has decided that she needs our bbq taken to their grandparent’s house to cook food.
I’ve told FH over and over again to let them know that they don’t need to do this, or even give wedding gifts, as we know they can’t afford it, and he says that he tells them and they know, but then, Future Sister-In-Law is still throwing this shower, and as we all know, they can be expensive to host.
I just feel weird/akward about the whole situation. I don’t know what the real reasons are behind this shower, and while I’m greatful that they want to do this for us, I don’t want them to feel that it is expected, but also don’t want to insult them by mentioning that I know they can’t really afford it. ugh.