Post # 1
Okay, so back at christmas my Future Sister-In-Law was going around telling people she was going to host a shower in February. After that she decided it was going to be either February, March or April….
My mother had already chosen april for the wedding shower she is hosting and I let my Future Sister-In-Law know that date…..
So, since my mom is hosting we were just going to invite my family, friends, wedding party and my and my fiance’s parents….but now, I have not heard anything from my Future Sister-In-Law regarding a shower…..so I don’t want my FI’s extended family to feel shut out….inviting them would only add 9 people to the shower guest list…
BUT, I am worried that if Future Sister-In-Law wants to host the shower still that I will be stepping on toes if FI’s extended family is invited to mine, cause will they want to attend 2 showers?
Fiance did try to get in touch with her (she is visiting their mother in the states right now) but could not. Hopefully he can hear from her tomorrow and we can straighten out this issue….
What is normal etiquette for showers? who do you invite? My Fiance assumed we WERE inviting his extended family, and understood why once I told him (about the whole stepping on his sister’s toes)….
Post # 3
@darkflame: Since your mom is hosting, she should reach out to Future Sister-In-Law and see if/to what extent she wants to be involved. If there are no major travel barriers, I think it would be better to do one shower.
Post # 4
That’s the problem, Future Sister-In-Law is not the most understanding person and it is best if Fiance is the one who deals with her. We’ve had many issues with her since our engagement. This is just the newest one.
She recently got angry because I did up a timeline and had the groomsmen getting ready at her house, which we discussed many many times (so that it was easier on her kids so they would be in the pics but still in their own environment with their toys to keep busy). So I had to change that.
I have a feeling that because of her fit over that issue she may be choosing just NOT to throw one, but if my Fiance does contact her I have a feeling she will say she is throwing one and not to invite his family to my mother’s.
I guess in the end anyone can invite anyone to anything.
I am mainly worried because his one aunt would really really want to come to a shower for us, BUT, I can’t just invite her and her husband and ALL of my aunts and uncles.
Post # 5
Fiance talked to Future Sister-In-Law and she is NOT throwing a shower…it is easier just to do one…
Just wondering how much talking behind our backs her and their mom are doing right now