- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I’m new to join, but I have been wandering on this site for awhile. There are several things I would love to ask your opionion and help on, but I’ll start with a wedding shower.
So a little back story…
Mr. Fermata and I have been engaged for about 3.5 years, dating for 7. We met in middle school and started dating at 14/15. We’re best friends and we went to the same college pursuing the same degree. Needless to say, not many people just know one of us. We’ve been at college for 4 years now and we attend a church where we’ve sung in the choir for 2 years. We have many friends here that we would hate to not celebrate our wedding with. But we do not expect them to travel back to our home town to attend our wedding, (I know some will) especially with the older people in the church choir. Some of those at college and church have suggested having a party/shower in our college town.
Now, looking up information about a wedding shower/celebration (we aren’t looking to get gifts) I know it’s not required but typically the Maid/Matron of Honor, BMs, or other friends/distant relatives throw it. Let me add, I do not expect a shower to be thrown, I do not demand it. I do however have people asking me about if I’m having one. I know it’s super poor ediquette to throw one yourself, but I don’t know anyone here well enough to offer to throw me one, not to mention most of them are poor college kids. I only have a Maid/Matron of Honor. She lives near my home town and does not have the time nor funds to throw one, and that’s fine with me. Also my mother has Lupus and has been pretty sick lately. She has not really been able to be active in most of the wedding process. My sister and I are not super close and she lives out of state. I know I cannot ask anyone to trow me a shower. I’m mainly venting, I’ve always felt better after writing a situation out. Maybe if you guys could help me come up with polite responses for those asking? Without sounding like I’m bitter or expect one. Again, I don’t exactly even want a shower. Due to family situations and money we’ve been living together for 2 years now and don’t need to prepare for a new household. We would really just like a celebration to see everyone one last time (we’re graduating in May, wedding in June) and to have an option so they don’t feel obligated to travel to the wedding.
I’ve been told I over think things a little.